DavidB, you're doing it. Keep it up. My best advice regarding broken trust, for what it's worth, is just to be your new strong self and keep on loving. Don't expect too much right away. It may take time. But love is strong stuff, in my opinion, and it really can heal wounds. Pardon the cliches.
brokengurl, you are not alone. It sounds as if you've been down a long, rough road. My daughter is going through a tough time with her dad, so I appreciate your sharing. Thanks. It's not easy breaking out of the habit of solitude, but your intended first steps are wise. I think it will help to talk to a therapist in a no-judgment setting. Your therapist can also help you make small do-able goals. I'm glad you have a steady companion. Like you, I found great comfort in my dog's companionship during my darkest days. He got me out out of the darkness and into the light on a regular basis. He was a rescue, and the first dog I've ever owned. I really lucked out. He's a red Australian shepherd, very sweet, and his nickname is the Good Shepherd. Aussies are working dogs. They need a steady job. My dog's job is to get me out of the house for long walks, and he does it faithfully.
Oh yes. Way too often. When I finally confessed to my husband of (then) seventeen years that I thought I was an alcoholic, he was surprised. I'd been drinking a bottle of wine a day for as long as I could remember, and he hadn't noticed. He knew I drank, but I kept the bottle that lasted four days in plain sight and refilled my glass from the bottles I hid. But I think another reason I like to drink alone and always at ight is because there's no risk anyone will find me out and judge me.
Welcome Conner. Glad you're here. I stopped drinking over a month ago--after drinking fairly steadily for lots of years. With every passing day, it gets a little easier...
Glad you're with us Craiggy. You've made the right choice. It really does help to share your ups and downs here--as well as hear about what the rest of us are going through. It's not easy. And sometimes it's two steps forward, one step back. That's still progress. Keep us posted on how you're doing.
Diana, my heart goes out to you. What an awful, frightening experience! I'm so sorry for what you've been through. And I'm glad you're here. You're in good company. Many of us have had similar experiences and we all struggle. We understand and accept. Welcome. It's not your fault, and it all begins with the first step.
Magenta Dahlia, you write so eloquently and honestly about the mysterious allure of alcohol, how it seduces us into thinking we need it and can't live without it, and then abandons us to sickness and pain. And then comes back again, tricking us into remembering how happy we were in the beginning, promising even more happiness, than abandoning us all over again. It's an endless downward spiral. Guilt and hope. I'm glad you have hope. You should. Welcome to our forum. We're here to help.
Splitimage, I love the peaceful, healing image of you knitting, perhaps with your harp nearby. Congratulations. Yes, you are making progress and one indication is the feeling that the emotional upheaval is good. Another one is that you're starting to like yourself. I'm so glad. From what you've shared here, I sum you up as creative and unique, determined to conquer, and yes, tired and frustrated too, but a continual source of inspiration. I'm sending you good vibes for the job hunt.
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