Hi,
I've been here a couple of times before just to read. There have been some *bones* to spit out, but I've had such phenomenal success with another V-CC support group that I thought it may be good to come here for some *special* support.
Here I am with tears in my eyes because my guy dumped me. Normal, sure, BUT this was twenty-two years ago. Hmm....the idea of *normal* doesn't quite fit anymore, huh? I need some help, badly.
I dearly love my husband, but I feel like a fraud because of this unshakable grief for the loss of another love.
Well, that's why I'm here.
Thanks.
I'm brand new here with my most recent quit attempt. Glad to find everyone!
I had another little problem that had to be quit and after countless attempts I finally gave up trying and used that crazy "higher power" concept taught by 12 step groups. With continuous success, that was 4 years and 10 months ago. It works for a lot of people.
One other thing I learned from my addictions/recovery. Never, EVER, stop quitting.
Good to be here among like-minded quitters!
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/14/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 3
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 46
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $12
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 49 [B]Seconds:[/B] 40
I just love reading the progress/healing timelines!!! I shouted out in the house to my family the other night, "Hey everyone, I have 24 smoke-free hours! I've just reduced my chances of a heart attack! Isn't that great?!!!" I'm sure my children have been dreaming of that day for a very long time. Today it was, "Hey! Guess what, my bronchial tubes are going to relax this evening!"
One thing that I'd like to do, though, is be able to separate the information of healing from not smoking and the healing from no nicotine. I'm using NRT and would like to know which milestones I'll have to miss until I kick the nic.
Anyone know?
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/14/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 3
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 46
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $12
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 50 [B]Seconds:[/B] 31
Thanks for the technical information! I always wanted to be a doctor, but I became an alcoholic and smoker instead before I even got out of high school! No credibility could be gained. HA! Maybe now I'll be able to go back to school - I could get my N.D. by the time I'm 50.
I smoked 1 pck/day for 27 years and my nicotine dependence rating is 7. This quit is somewhere between #5 and 8.
As for NRT, I've tried gum, patches and cold turkey. I really like the lozenges (using now) because it requires action several times a day, provides routine and gives my mouth something to do for a while. Also, I've noticed that besides being able to breathe better and not having that single, small cough w/phlemball in the morning, I don't feel any differently than when I smoked. I'm not crabby, anxious or anything. Cold turkey was certainly the roughest. I had a three week quit that way. I had insomnia, constipation, anxiety, preoccupation and the monkey NEVER got off my back or even lightened up.
This time I've done several things differently and the difference is amazing. Now the monkey only jumps on for a few seconds and few times a day. The thought of smoking is there and then it's gone. Finally, I can focus on living life without smokes and deal with the substance issue at a later time. Both at once was just too overwhelming for me.
I still have the question: "On the health-benefits timeline, which benefits are from quitting smoke and which are from quitting nicotine?"
Questions like:
I've been quit for three+ days. My bronchial tubes are relaxed (post 72 hrs). Is that because of a lack of smoke or a lack of nicotine?
I have a decreased risk of heart attack (post 24hrs) now. Is that from lack of smoke or lack of nicotine?
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/14/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 3
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 52
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $12
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 7 [B]Mins:[/B] 44 [B]Seconds:[/B] 28
Hi Iwin!
Glad you're here.
Dont' forget that 1 puff is too many and 1000 is never enough. If you want to stay quit, don't smoke.
You'll have to put blinders on when it comes to your husband. I'm on day four and my husband still smokes. Luckily we haven't smoked in the house for over 10 years and he tries not to smoke around me anymore. But sometime he's gonna light up when I'm there and I'll have to take action and remove myself from his vacinity. And I smell it on him, too. I get up and leave when that happens. Since we're both involved in another recovery program, he understands that I have to do whatever it takes to not smoke, even if it means not spending a lot of time with him at first. He knows not to take it personally.
Keep in touch with your posts, OK?
gpw
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/14/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 3
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 52
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $12
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 7 [B]Mins:[/B] 45 [B]Seconds:[/B] 33
I don't understand! I thought my cravings were supposed to be worst during the first few days of my quit. In reality I've had no cravings until day 6. Today is day 7 and I feel as if I've quit WARM TURKEY. Not nearly the physical misery of cold turkey, yet not the total comfort of 4 mg. lozenges.
Too, I must figure out how to lovingly tell my smoker husband that although I would love to kiss his face off, I must steer clear of him except after a shower and good tooth brushing.
Can't wait until bedtime! Sleep, the great escape.
gpw
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/14/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 6
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 102
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $24
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 9 [B]Seconds:[/B] 48
Mo,
In the same boat with you.
My husband smokes and although he goes outside to smoke, he smells like cigarettes and doesn't bother hiding them. I think, "If he were only in my shoes....".
I've been trying to figure out whether or not I want to be bothered by his smoking. I have come to realize that I can decided to make it a major issue and be unhappy if I want. I really don't want to cop a militant attitude and will not tell him what to do (I know it doesn't work).
I've reached the conclusion today that all I need to see is my quit. I can go to another room of the house BEFORE he gets back inside from his smoke if it bothers me that much. Being on NRT right now I don't really have the desire to smoke his cigs, but I know that I will not feel this confident when weaning off. By then I should have some coping skills down very well.
Just keep in mind that your quit has nothing to do with the way he lives his life - that you are your own person and it is in your program to maintain - not his responsibility to change his lifestyle to make yours more cushy - I mean, he could if he wanted to, but it's not required.
Maybe you could tell him what would help you. He can either help you or not. Be ready to accept his decision either way - don't hold it against him. Addictions don't like intruders, no matter who you are. It's not your husbands fault.
Just hang on, go to a different room, go for a walk and remind yourself that you will do whatever it takes to be free of cigarettes.
Take care,
gpw
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/14/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 11
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 177
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $44
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 15 [B]Seconds:[/B] 54
Wow Gordon24Fan,
That's a whole lot on your plate right now. What method of quitting are you using - if you don't mind my asking?
I know what you mean about finding out about ourselves! An update: Stress is a bit more of an annoyance today. Still detoxing. Tomorrow will be different, I'm sure.
gpw
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/14/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 11
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 177
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $44
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 16 [B]Seconds:[/B] 30
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