Hi Cincere
Truthfully, I could have written that same post at my 75 day mark - EXACTLY as you have written it. I had a couple of rough weeks back then
There may be a lot of things that you may want to change about your life when you quit smoking, but just like quitting smoking you have to take it one day at a time. Don't try to make too many major changes right now. For now, just work on you and changing your thinking about smoking
Focus on your quit until you feel you are strong enough to handle those other issues without them ending up being an excuse to go back to smoking. Those issues have been around for a long time, they won't get dealt with overnight.
I recently bought a book titled "Relationship Rescue". I started reading it and the first part deals with fixing yourself. I'm not strong enough in my quit to read further and that is OK. I'll get there. The relationship will wait. You are not alone. Hang on and we'll get through it.
It's a choice!
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/8/2005
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 102
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,572
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1173
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 10 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 15 [B]Seconds:[/B] 38
Hi Celia
Thanks for your response to my post about this sometimes difficult situation. I told my husband: "Don't be a closet smoker. Smoke em if you got em...outside". I said that because I didn't want him to become resentful of me for his need to be that closet smoker. I am not going to let "me" be the excuse for his failure. He needs to take ownership of that. He wants me to fail so that it is easier for him to smoke. Sorry, that is not going to happen. It has always happened that way in the past. We quit together, and while I always have had a longer success than he, it was always me that sort of gave "permission" to quit the quit. I always knew he would agree because he really had never quit. Not this time.
When I was having trouble with him smoking a few weeks back, it was because I was looking at it as him not committing to "me" and my choice to quit. I took it personally. Mistake... I had to remind myself that he is an addict and that is all it is about...Nicotene.
I feel better about it now and I am back on track. I made a big deal about 100 days in our house, just so he would know that I am taking responsibility for making my own support. Keep a smile on. He'll see it.
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/8/2005
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 101
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,536
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1161.5
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 59 [B]Seconds:[/B] 28
This is the longest quit I've ever had and I won't do it again.
Two things that helped me through the first few weeks were: 1) Something Lady posted - "You have to want to quit more than you want to smoke." and 2) I always gave up before I was able to see what it was like on the other side.
I still want to quit more than I want to smoke and I am at the beach and looking to the other side....closer than I've ever been before. I like what I see.
It's a choice
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/8/2005
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 101
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,543
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1161.5
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 35 [B]Seconds:[/B] 16
Congratulations on 90 days!!
10 days to the beach and I can tell you it is great. The sun, the surf, and Cuddles cooks up some mean grub. Waiting for you. Smokefree2 - get another hammock ready.
It's a choice!
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/8/2005
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 101
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,545
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1161.5
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 46 [B]Seconds:[/B] 36
Congratulations on 100 days Bill!!!!
I knew you were going to do it.
Stay Strong.
See you at the Beach.
It's a choice!
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/8/2005
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 95
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,396
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1092.5
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 7 [B]Mins:[/B] 50 [B]Seconds:[/B] 46
This one is going in the "save it" file, for when I need extra motivation. Thanks so much.
It's a choice
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/8/2005
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 95
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,393
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1092.5
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 7 [B]Mins:[/B] 30 [B]Seconds:[/B] 45
When I quit back in December my hubby said he would quit too. Don't know how long he lasted but he was soon smoking the little cigars (just like he has always done on previous attempts). I knew what I needed to do as far as owning my own quit and I did really good at not letting his failure influence me...until about 3 weeks ago. I let it get to me that he was indulging and I couldn't (poor me) and asked him to give some thought to a quit date. "I Quit Yesterday," he said. Well, I went ballistic. I was so upset that he thought he could just put them down and walk away, with no preparation. That hasn't worked in the past why would it work this time. I told him he wasn't going to be successful and said he'd be back to smoking in 2 days time. So he with "Just because I'm not doing it your way, doesn't mean I won't be successful." Well of course I got to say "I told you so" (not that I did), but yes he lasted about a week.
Last night while lying in bed (He thought I was asleep) I smelled it. A cigarette. I did not get mad like I have done in the past. But i will remind him of his promise to respect my request to not smoke in the house. He is struggling, but it makes me stronger. I will show him that it can be done. But supportive he is not.
I stayed home from work today because I wasn't feeling well.He phone to check on me. I hadn't slept all night and I told him I had lain there most of the night thinking of a cigarette. (Not true - but I always try to make a joke of it.) He asked if there was anything he could bring home for me....a pack of smokes, maybe. "Not funny." I told him. His idea of a joke. Yesterday I might have said sure, but a few of the posts last night really helped me to become more accepting of this quit. I DO NOT SMOKE. (Period)
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/8/2005
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 98
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,466
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1127
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 18 [B]Seconds:[/B] 49
Redrosie
Just want you to know that you are not alone in feeling this way. At about 75 days I started having those same kind of thoughts...Just go back to smoking...You can quit again...Getting really tired of all these thoughts that never seem to go away.
What I do know is that there has been a smile on my face since day one. You have quit!!!!WOW. You need to pat yourself on the back. Don't expect anyone else to. We know how hard this is. What I am trying to work on right now is acceptance. Acceptance that I am quit and maybe I can relax a little bit. I have been afraid of slipping, but you know I really don't think I need to be afraid. Reaffirm your commitment to not smoke no matter what....NO MATTER WHAT....NOPE.
Now let's get on with it. We do not smoke and lets stop thinking that maybe we can.
It's a choice!!! We will make that choice when we need to.
Judy
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/8/2005
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 97
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,447
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1115.5
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 35 [B]Seconds:[/B] 29
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