Hi Brenna,
Welcome and thank you for joining the support group. We need all the help we can get.
Just starting session 3. so probably will require some assistance x
Hi,
Not sure if an activity organised for home work counts as pleasant activity.
Its something I want to do and has previously given me joy in helping others but now I am stressing about it so it is also making me anxious and worried.
Its something I cant get out of but also dont want to as it means so much to people I dont even know.
It has also made me feel good afterwards previously but involves a great deal of work for me just now. Only because of my perfectionist tendencies.
Have asked a friend to help me out but she has a hospital appointment that day so I will have to go it alone.
So, bottom line is, is this counted as pleasant activity homework? x
Thanks casey,
In previous years I have hardly given a second thought of this event but now with the depression it has taken some planning on my part.
It is a service with R.A.F VIPs held at my house as a pilot died during the battle of britain.
We have a plaque on the wall in remembrance.
Usually around 30 or so people come, 1 year closer to 80.
Basically i just have to make sure there are no cars in my drive and then after the service everyone comes in and I just supply tea, coffee and cakes etc before they all go to the war museum for Lunch.
It really is no big deal when I think of it but I need my house to be spotless and because I have been so bad it is not. Have done bathrooms today and will tackle lounge tomorrow but it is not coming easy. I am a perfectionist in all that I take on.
I am also panicking and anxious.
Not that anyone of these old veterans would even notice if the house was a bit dusty but i do.
I like to make sure they are comfortable and having a good day.
The pilots sister who is 98 years old travels from Scotland to London for this to pay tribute to her beloved brother. They are always so thankful for my hospitality and never make any demands.
They wouldnt even care if i offered them nothing but I like to do this for them. This year it is just really stressing me out and I hate this feeling, I always promise to put a wreath on the plaque on rememberance Sunday and that also makes me feel good to do that for this very lovely old Lady.
My Husband wants me to cancel as he thinks it will be too much for me
but he doesnt understand my need to do something positive and to help others.
I will let you know how I get on. Thanks again for clarifying the pleasant activities
x
Hi Wildcat,
Well had a meeting with my son and daughter and husband.
My Son wants them all to find out about my depression and help so that has made me feel a bit more positive. Hope its not all talk and no action.
Went to bed very late, 3am, just couldnt switch off no matter what I did.
This has left me irritable and tired today but have to get organised for my "pleasant activity" tomorrow, something I always do with no planning when well, but now I cant just whizz around at 90 miles per hour as before.
Am trying hard with the homework and know it has to be done but it also seems another chore to try to deal with.
keep forgetting to fill in the mood sheets also.
Feel for you that you have young kids to deal with, Still on a more positive thought, you are not allowed to wallow as you have to care for them no matter how horrible you are feeling which could be a good thing? Belive me you will miss the funny little stories etc when they are grown. Good luck with the homework, let me know how you'r doing.x
I mIss my exercise.
I know that it helps with mood etc and I also dont like the added flab and weight that has settled around my middle!
However, what to do when the reason for my depression is the fact that my back is so bad i can hardly move, can walk no more than 6/7 steps,
so exercise for me is out of the question.
Does this mean that the depression will last forever? I dont want to believe so as I have to learn to be active in other ways but I am learning to be active mentally trying to do the C.B.T.
Hi wildcat,
never even thought that people wouldnt know about rememberence day as its such a big thing here.
The queen and all the armed forces and veterans march past the senetaph in London and then on to westminster abbey where the service is broadcast nationwide. We have a 2 min silence at 11am. This happens in every store, shopping mall etc. Most people, even the young respect this.
The staff in shops do not serve the customers for the 2 mins. A big announcement is made 5 mins before that this will take place to honour all those who have died at all wars including for us the falklands and more recently Iraq. x
Hi have just had my Remeberance service with the R.A.F.
and have to say it was definately worth the stress that I have felt for the past couple of days.
The people were charming, The uniformed officers georgous, and I got through it with no panic attacks and actually enjoyed it so I feel that this was definately successful home work .
I think I was really thinking about cancelling. My Cousin turned up unexpectedly as she knows this happens each year and helped make the tea and serve everyone so less stress for me.
Am so pleased with myself. 2 steps forward today and I am going to do nothing else as I dont want this feeling to go just yet.
Just proves that this C.B.T thing works.
Hi Lady,
Hold on there, you are strong but obviously having a difficult day.
Keep saying all those things toyourself.
You are not alone,
we are here but not always on line at the same time.
what has happened today to make you feel like this?
wildcat,
your therapist seems to give you some really tough challenges to work on.
She obviously thinks you are able to cope with all of this
but to me you seem to be working through so quickly.
I for one, couldnt achieve what you ar trying to when I am so low.
You are being very hard on yourself.
It is one thing to take positive action against this terrible illness but another to put yourself under too much pressure to get even this right.
Take your time, go back a little then slowly go forward.
My Son who is now 28 is my pride and joy and is helping me with my recovery but i remeber that for the 1st 15 years of his life I always thought that he would die, I didnt think i deserved him.
Looking back I think I missed some of the joy for fear of loosing him but at the time these thoughts wouldnt leave me and i wasnt even depresed then.
i do hope you feel better tomorrow and try to be kind to yourself, work on the programe but dont overwork the programe. Good luck.x
lady,
If you need to take some duvet time then take it.
sometimes the tears dont stop whatever you do but you are not worthless.
Why bother? Because you are worth the effort.
Who is this idiot person that made you feel so bad? I am sure you wouldnt have done it to them.
i am sure they didnt do this on purpose but it had the same effect on you anyway.
When we are low and vunerable even the slightest remark can bring us down to the point that you are now.
Go home, have a good cry, try to rest and sleep a little and try again when you feel stronger.
Dont allow this to get to you, you are a good paerson.
Keep strong
Keep strong
keep strong, say it over and over and over. you are not worthless. x
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