Mom of 3, don't want to sound like a preacher but quit worrying about God's Will and God's time and pray for strength to get through whatever life brings you TODAY. Work it one day at a time. Remember God does answer prayers but not necessarily the outcome we want. That is where His Will comes in and praying for strength helps us deal with unanswered prayers. Remember that song (a country one) Thank God for unanswered prayers. When all of this is said and done, you may be thanking Him for the strength and not the outcome you'd been asking for.
I'm sorry you don't have a good person to go to and be able to verbalize these emotions to them. However, I'm glad you have this resource.
Sounds like your doing a great job with your son. Yes, he is going to pick up on the unsettled emotions and events in the household, but sounds like you are doing your best to minimize the effects. Keep up the good work!
Can you identify why "what thoughts" are causing you to feel panic? STOP and make a plan with him (husband), without him regarding every issue you identify. You were doing okay with the situation in the household until you suspected he was having an affair. You indicated you really don't know this yet but suspect and your mother (who you also said is not very supportive) also she felt like it is true. Don't let your suspicions cloud your original plan of action for dealing with the situation. Don't project emotions into the situation until you have the knowledge. Go back to Plan A. You haven't indicated that your husband has said he's now against the original plan, he is having an affair, or that he wants to be done with the marriage. Are you projecting your fears into the situation? Just wanting you to think about it a bit. I may have missed something.
Hang in there Mom of 3, doing great with the son, identifying that you don't need to be around your mom right now and hear her woes regarding the situation. In fact, you may draw a line or boundary and say mom, I really don't think we should discuss this right now, anymore, just for today. That way you don't have to listen to her stuff, just handle your stuff.
I love the little train.....I think I can I think I can and pray for strength. I prayed, it seemed continually, through dad's illness at the hospital and at home. I did better than I ever imagined I could. I persevered without sleep, forgetting my meds one day, watching the slow decline, trying to reassure him I'd be okay (he was so worried about me and my depression), putting up with my brothers' b***sh**, family sticking their nose in everything, and I believe God gave me that strength and continues to do so today. I took time for my meditation with God everyday (if only for a few minutes). Take time to connect with God and pray for strength! (preacher Goofy shuts up now, but sounds as if we have similar beliefs)