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9 years ago 0 347 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
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Hey Zoey!  
Was a little worried about you but glad to hear all is well.  I was about to post to Dave's and and Kez response to me on another thread.  Just wanted to respond to your post so you knew we were still here!

Lynn
9 years ago 0 347 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Characteristics of alcoholic or dysfunctional householdsI thought it might be a point of discussion

Dave, Zoey, Kez,

Thank you so much for your thoughts and support as I have gone through this week.  Today was not met with the expectation that I had expected.  I had thought I would be sooooo excited that my 4 days ways over it was "OK" to drink.  I was not excited but undecided.  Wondering if I should or not. I came into this wanting to stop during the week, something I had not done since the early 90's.   Well, I did and I wish I had not.  I know we all say that after we drink but I really wish I had not.  For whatever reason; testing myself, not sure of myself, etc., I felt I had to know.  Well, now I know.  It is really not worth it.  I won't lie, the first few drinks were great but then as we know, what then?  I guess we wouldn't be here if we knew the answer to that!  Tonight gives me something else to think about.  Maybe rethink my goals and what I REALLY want.  In  the the short term I will give my partner a sober partner on a Saturday night, something she has not had since we met. 

Kez, I know you will be facing a drinking battle tomorrow.  My advice, really think about the drinks you take.  Only you know how many you can have before it becomes endless ( I learned this tonight).  Only you know why you want to take that drink, when you will allow yourself to take that drink.  As I sit here posting, I wish I had not taken that drink.  I wish that meant that I wouldn't take another drink but I don't know, which means I probably will.

Zoey, so glad you are back with us!  

Take care and have a good night!

P.S.  Dave, your blog is on the list of things to do!
9 years ago 0 347 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
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Welcome Hopefulsarah,
Good for you for recognizing your struggle and doing something about it.  You are already making progress!  You have definitely come to the right site, you will find a lot of support here.
My suggestion, read the current and past post and realize that you are not alone.  Post your questions, thoughts, and feelings.  Someone will respond with some thoughtful encouragement and suggestions.

Lynn
9 years ago 0 347 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Characteristics of alcoholic or dysfunctional householdsI thought it might be a point of discussion

Dave,
You mentioned taking "the road less traveled", very funny you mentioned that.  I started reading that book years ago and picked it up the other day to begin reading it again.  I am looking forward to getting into it, I think there will be many sections that speak to me.  
I have a question about the Paul Mckenna plan, is your sleep supposed to be corrected after the 7 day program or is it something that you need to continue to listen to?  Either way, it works and do not mind listening to him if it makes me go to sleep.  I have only been able to listen to the first night, I guess that is all the intro will allow?  I plan to buy the program, just wanted to know what to expect.  

Thanks,
Lynn

9 years ago 0 347 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Characteristics of alcoholic or dysfunctional householdsI thought it might be a point of discussion

Kez,

Thank you so much for your response.  Your “ranting” was probably just what I needed to hear.  It sounds so much like me.  I can totally relate to your experience last night, having to wait out that horrible anxiety.  Congrats to you for sticking it out.

We will be with you today, thinking and supporting you.  Post if you need encouragement, I am sure someone will be here to respond.  Have a wonderful time today and let us know how it goes!

Lynn

9 years ago 0 347 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Characteristics of alcoholic or dysfunctional householdsI thought it might be a point of discussion

Zoey,

I meant to reply to you in the last post but obviously posted before I did!  You asked if my partner noticed.  She did not/could not because I was not with her this week.  I will make this as short as possible---My partner and I have been together for almost 6 years.  Until August of this year we lived together and then I had an opportunity for a job that could not be turned down.  I was very hesitant to even mention it to her in the beginning but once I did she was very supportive, telling me to “GO FOR IT!”  It involved me moving almost 4 hours away, moving into an apartment, leaving our dogs, and our home.  Over the past year we have tried to see each other every weekend but sometimes it was every other weekend.   Throughout the year I have continued to receive support from her and we will continue with the situation.  The entire reason for this move is our future.  I am 48 and within 10  years, this job will greatly enhance my retirement.

So, to answer your question, she did not know because I was at the apartment, which was probably for the best.  I have been through the struggle and know that I can do it.  Because it is summer (I teach) I will be dividing my weeks between our home and the apartment.  I am sure she will notice when I am not drinking, it is going to interesting her response.  There has been only a handful of times that she has not seen me drinking in 6 years.

How did your husband respond?  Was it what you expected?

Hope you have a good day!

Lynn

9 years ago 0 347 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Characteristics of alcoholic or dysfunctional householdsI thought it might be a point of discussion

Hey Zoey,

It sounds as though your conversation with your husband was a good thing.  It seemed to have revealed some issues that have been ignored.  It sounds as though he will be very supportive in your journey.

As I read about your move I related because in the past few months I have wondered if that is why my drinking escalated.  At the time I thought that it had nothing to do with the move but maybe in some way it did.  I am used to having my family and friends nearby, moving changed that.  I am not one for change, was at my old job for over 20 years.  I guess this is one reason it is so hard to break this habit of alcohol.

This weekend has been good for me, it has given me a chance to think about what I want and what I don't.  I know I don't want to drink during the week and I am going to stick to that plan for now.  

How are you doing today?  In the past Sunday is an AF day for you, if so stay strong!

Lynn
9 years ago 0 347 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Characteristics of alcoholic or dysfunctional householdsI thought it might be a point of discussion

Hello All!
I am just checking in to say hello and to see how everyone is doing.  Thanks for the information about the program Dave, I have not purchased the program yet but have had success using what was available on the App.  Thanks!

Zoey, glad to hear you are progressing in a positive direction, keep up the work.  It also sounds like talking to your husband was a step in the right direction.  Best of luck to you.

As for me, I am trying to take some time away from computers, phones, etc.  It has been a heck of a year for me and need time to just be.  Hopefully with some time I will know what it is that I want and how to get there.

Have a great night!

Lynn
9 years ago 0 347 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Scared

Patti,
I have not been here much in the past few says but have seen a few of your post.  For me, having a half of a glass of wine would be a huge a accomplishment!  I have found that it is easier to not have any than to have just a little.  Good for you!

I am glad you found this site, hope you find what you need here.

Lynn
9 years ago 0 347 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Just saying Hello

I just wanted to check in with everyone to see how they were doing!  I am taking some time away but have been checking in from time to time.  Welcome to everyone new, as you have seen, you will find a lot of support here.

Kez, I have not seen any posts from you lately...how are things?

Zoey, how are things progressing with you?

Dave, you give so much good advice , help, and support to everyone here.  Thank you!

Have a good night everyone!  

Lynn