Dave, thank you very much for sharing that link with us. I became lost in the comments almost immediately.
This week, without much time for details, I found myself in what was, in retrospect, a very disappointing conversation with someone I trust. Someone who I felt should have seen through my words. I found myself being completely negative, pessimistic, hopeless and unable to express what was going on beneath that negativity. NOt the way I usually behave onthe outside. Sure, I was probably just in a depressed mood; I didn't see it coming and it came out of nowhere, but I knew that there was so much going on underneath those words that I just couldn't summarize to express what I was really and truly trying to say. It left me feeling utterly unreachable, alone, misunderstood and beating myself up for sounding so "helpless". And, surprise surprise, craving a bottle of wine to quiet that profound frustration when I got home that evening. One of the questions that was asked was "how is your drinking ?" I gave a vague and uncommitted response, because my head was spinning. And after I'd answered, I felt like there needed to be something more... some kind of follow up.... because the DRINKING is not in itself the problem. The drinking is the symptom of what's going on underneath. I might not be making sense... and I am not explaining myself properly... but long story short, I ended up feeling worse about everything than I'd been feeling previously , because in addition to falling victim to the voice inside my head, I felt alone, misunderstood, and superficial about something that was anything but. Might as well just drink to shut it all off. It's just so very hard, complex, complicated to dissect it all the way it needs to be dissected. Anyway.... reading this extremely intelligent and well-put together post, and all of the profound comments following, was a comfort.
(For the record, on the bright side, I've come back to life and, even if I'm flying solo, I'm doing what I need to do to stay "up" - to keep the demons at bay. Which is good for now until I can find a way to collect my thoughts again.)
I'm not sure if this made any sense... very disjointed... can't wait for some quiet time to read through the link again Dave - thanks.