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9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Going to give it a real shot this time

Cassy,

Jewel left out that recently past a month sober and has started on month 2 :)))

Lynn

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Going to give it a real shot this time

Cassy,

How are you doing? I am not sure what suggestion is best for you, I am new to the thought of being AF myself. I can say that all you can do is take it minute by minute, hour by hour. Don't look to tomorrow (yet) that time will come. I have found that looking at the big picture is a little intimidating and there is nothing you can do about now anyway, all you have is the moment.

Stay strong, read the post, post to express what you are feeling and thinking, and know that you are better off today than you were yesterday.

Lynn

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Scared

Zoey,

How did the luncheon with friends go? You lost 3 pounds in less than a week! That is awesome!!! I say use whatever motive you can to get you to your goal :)

You said that I have everything in order, that could be further from the truth. The days that I have gone AF have been awful. As I have said, it is not the actually time of being AF but the day of leading up to that night, How many Cardiovascular surgeons do you know that are overweight? They know what causes heart disease but cannot/do not live their lives to prevent it. I know how to be healthy, lose weight, how to eat , but that does not mean that I am. I am 5'8" and weigh 140. This time last year I weighed 130 and the weight gain is because of alcohol. A year ago I could stop at a certain number, now that number is not enough. I am to the point though that I am not happy with a day or two here or there of being AF, I would like a plan. I know what I am doing is not healthy. I seem to work better when I know what it is that I am going to do and when I am going to do it. It is odd, I do not have to have any inspiration to do almost an hour of cardio and lift weights 4-5 days a week and eat "clean" but to not drink alcohol, I have none. I think of the people that have an addiction to food, those that once they begin to eat they can't stop. I feel so sorry for them. It makes me feel as though my troubles are trivial. I can choose to distance myself from alcohol, someone that is a food addict cannot. The temptation is always there for them. How hard that must be, you have to eat. We do not have to drink.

Zoey, you said in one of your post that for now you would like to go AF for 2 days then allow it for 1. As you know, I have contemplated telling my partner of my troubles and one of the main reasons is to be accountable. I would like to try that plan myself. What do you think of us doing this on the same days? Let me know what you think.

Lynn

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Quitting AGAIN

Gus,

Welcome back! Do you remember if you and I had conversation before? It would have been about a month ago. I know I corresponded with someone named Gus, just don't know if it was you or not.

Lynn

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Quitting AGAIN

Good morning Gus,

Glad to have you back. As for me, I am still here and have had some accomplishments but many disappointments and struggles.

I saw your other post about sleep. That has been a constant problem with me when I am not drinking. Dave provided two good resources that have helped a little. I have found that a morning after no sleep is better than a morning after alcohol.

Hope you have a great Father's Day!

Lynn

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Day Two thoughts and feelings

Cassy,

You are strong in your thoughts, let that carry you through your struggles. I know you will be traveling but post when you can/need to. As you have seen, you will find support! Safe travels to you!

Lynn

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Scared

Jewel,

It sounds like your physical health is improving with your mental health. As you know, you have been an inspiration to many.

Hope you have a wonderful day!

Lynn

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Scared

Zoey,

Just remember that today is another day :))

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

New Day

Good morning everyone! I am not very happy with myself and a little scared of the direction I am headed. I drank yesterday, more than I can remember drinking and really don't feel that hungover today. My drinking has escalated which is what brought me here over a month ago. I have been a daily drinker for years but since coming onto this site I have had days of being AF but never many in a row. I know my body enjoys being AF even for a day but it is time for me to think about getting truly healthy.

At this point I do not think I can say I am giving it up completely right now (Jewel, don't know how you are doing it! Keep going!) but I am going to try for 4 days, something I have not done in at least 10 years. I do not want an out, I need to do this. When Friday arrives I plan to seriously think about drinking, really thinking about WHY I want the drink. Hopefully I will make the decision of not taking the drink.

Dave, if you are reading this I am trying to take the "positive" approach that I have read you suggesting so many times. Hopefully by me "seeing" myself AF for 4 days will get me through. Thanks for your help to the many people on this site.

It is odd, as I post I have a different feeling about today, the week. As many of you have read, it is the thoughts during the day of being AF that are the worse for me, but today is different. I actually am feeling good thinking about the freedom. That will probably taper off as it gets closer to my normal time of drinking, but for now I am good.

I know I will have support here today if I need it. Take you everyone! Let's have a good day :)

Lynn

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

New Day

Jewel and Zoey,

Thank you for your support. I am still feeling positive about the day and feeling pretty free :) It is a good and different feeling. Not sure what the difference is today, maybe just tired of it all.

Zoey, my drink of choice is beer and vodka or rum. I have never been much if a wine drinker. And I am not sure why I drank more yesterday but it opened my eyes. We went out with friends the other night and watched the ones that do drink but on this night decided not to. I have seen them do this many times, I guess I just realized they were having just as much fun without alcohol (probably more) and really wanted to be able to do that. Hopefully we will get there Zoey!

Lynn

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