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Hi KC
I'm a 50 year old mother of 3 adult children, one of which has her own drinking problem caused by watching me turn to the bottle whenever I have a problem. Alcoholism is the worst thing in the world, I would not wish it on my worst enemy and yet I have contributed towards it for my own child. How low did I have to sink to have my daughter 'looking after me' after my binges, lying for me to my employer and friends and family. I have not yet made my amends to her, I am so ashamed. That is one of the major motivations for me to stay away from alcohol. It is not worth ruining her life for that brief 20 min. of buzz before I pass out into oblivion.
I have learned the hard way that my drinking is unmanageable. A wise person posted today, 'it's not one drink, it's a drunk' and that is so true. I constantly remind myself how good it feels to not drink and slowly but surely, those thoughts are edging out the lie my brain tells me about how much fun drinking is! Every withdrawal after every relapse has been harder and harder and trying to stop gets harder every time. My withdrawals nearly hospitalized me in December and I know they will next time, if I lived to withdraw! There is no way I am going to do that to my family or myself.
I'm sure you know about AA with meetings in the evening in most places but it didn't work for me but it may be right for you. I have been alcohol free for only 20 days and have found this site very helpful, using the tools and reading the posts of other like minded people. I have relapsed more times than I can count but the good news is when you keep trying, eventually you succeed.
Three things I have learned-
1. You are not alone.
2. Don't be too hard on yourself. You are here and that takes a lot of courage.
3. Never ever ever give up no matter how many times you slip, you will get there eventually.
God bless you
Wendy