Guys, tell me i'm silly!
Hello again,
Beth, this may sound stupid but I was really touched by you supporting me in the not going to the party thing. Everybody else always seems to say go on, give it a try, you can do it, stiff upper lip, etc. It makes such a difference - it makes it kind of ok not to go, it's almost like I need someone's approval for what I do, it just feels better! So THANKS!
I think you're really lucky to have all those people around you, a mobile comfort zone. I'm ok with my boyfriend around, he is part of my comfort zone when I'm at home, but I can't go on holiday with him. You're probably right about the undivided attention thing, when I'm on holiday with him he's forever reading leaflets and checking out train times and leaves me alone for hours on platforms in train stations. Well, he's done that quite a few times when we were on holiday. I'm not at my best in strange towns with hours between me and home, stuck there waiting for a train or a plane, and he just wanders off. Could have killed him! He 'knows' about my panics, but because he's never had one he doesn't really 'understand'.
I have a friend who also has panic attacks and I feel very comfortable with him. I could easily imagine going on holiday with him as my comfort zone, but because of his particular disorder he freaks when there is someone with him, so quite the opposite of me. So basically no holidays for Marianne. (Sniff, fiddles in the background€¦).
I don't think you're selfish at all about wanting undivided attention. When you're having a panic attack it feels like you're not going to survive (although some part of you knows you will) and it's the most natural thing in the world to want undivided attention when you feel like you're going to die.
Anyway, I'll be alone all next week (brrr€¦). You wrote before that you had been alone for a week not long ago and that you got through it with flying colours. I'll be taking you as an example! Hope I can do just as well as you did! I'm toying with the idea of going to the seaside and spending a night in a hotel there, kind of as an exposure exercise. Now I'm all brave, sitting by my computer and looking at pretty pictures of pretty hotels, but I can just see me chickening out at the last minute€¦
Suzy, you're a miracle, you are so upb