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10 years ago 0 54 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Day 2 of my fifth try

Just wanted to say hi to everyone here and introduce myself. Reading all your posts has already been really helpful and made me feel less alone.
 
I had my last cigarette Tuesday night before going to bed. Yesterday was pretty bad; today is better. I read somewhere that drinking a lot of water helps, so that's what I've been doing. I drank almost a gallon yesterday -- no idea whether it really did anything but I did have to pee every thirty minutes so at least I had a constant distraction! For those of you who are iPhone users I also downloaded a 99-cent app called "My Last Cigarette" that I've been looking at for encouragement.
 
I'm 31 and have smoked since my freshman year of college, when I had no friends and felt really homesick and discovered smoking was a great way to get to know all the coolest people. Fast forward thirteen years and my relationship with smoking is still basically the same: I do it whenever I feel anxious and as a way to relax and have fun. I've quit four times before this and made it varying lengths of time before succumbing to "I'm doing great, I can have just one!" so I know this time I cannot do that. I can never smoke ever again. It's really scary.
 
The reason I want to make it stick this time is I got married a few months back and it made me really think about the future. I want to be healthy and live a really long time for my husband and the family we will hopefully have one day. I'm doing other health-focused stuff as well -- eating more organic things, working out four or five times a week. But this is the big obstacle, this stupid thing I never should have started doing in the first place.
 
I already feel healthier, and I love that I smell good. But I can't shake the feeling that nothing will ever be truly fun or enjoyable again without smoking, and I want to cry over just about everything. How long did the depression last for you guys?
10 years ago 0 54 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Day 2 of my fifth try

Thanks so much, Deb! It's really great to come here and see the stories of so many people who have stopped successfully. I want to feel great about myself like you all do! Hope I get there soon.
 
In the meantime, I just keep chugging water. It's something to bring from my hand to my mouth at least. :/
10 years ago 0 54 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Day 2 of my fifth try

Thanks, everybody, for the warm welcomes and the encouragement! I really have enjoyed reading all of your stories and knowing that I am not alone in this.
 
Amazingly, I did start to feel really incredible last night. I've been drinking truly ridiculous amounts of water (it's also a million degrees here and I don't have AC, so it's been easy) and then I went to my hot yoga class and sweated it out for 90 minutes, and I think the combination must have flushed the last of the nicotine from my system. I was bouncing off the walls by the time I got home. I couldn't believe how great I felt.
 
This morning I woke up to a bunch of really stressful work e-mails and did not feel quite as amazing, but I do feel less depressed. I'm making it through, slowly but surely. :)
10 years ago 0 54 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Down this road again

Hi, Joanne! I just quit (again) this week myself, so I wanted to say hi since we're in the same boat.
 
For many years people who had successfully quit smoking told me that even though I had failed in the past, when the time was really right for me, I'd be able to do it. Often these people said they actually had a pretty easy time of it once they were truly ready. It sounds like that's you, so don't give up or feel like it's impossible!
 
I have mentioned on another thread that in these early awful days I have been drinking a ton of water. It sounds dumb, but it's something you can lift to your mouth with your hand, like a cigarette, so it helps with the feeling of wanting to do that constantly. And supposedly it flushes the nicotine out of your system.
 
I too have a lot of problems with the "habit" part of smoking. Aside from the water thing, I'm not even letting myself go out on my porch right now, and I made myself a CD of songs I like to sing along to to give me something to do in the car. I don't know if you drink, but I usually have a glass or two of wine at night and have already discovered that that's not an option right now because it's too linked with smoking in my mind. Instead I've just been getting in bed to read. Once I'm comfy in my pajamas I don't really want to get back up anyway.
 
Don't know if any of these ideas might help you but they are how I've been getting through. Good luck, YOU CAN DO IT!
10 years ago 0 54 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Here comes the weekend

Hi, everyone! You all have such amazing and sage advice, I thought I'd check in with you going into my first non-smoking weekend.
 
I made my quit day a Wednesday on purpose. I figured a Monday would be too hard, but I wanted to put a little margin of error between myself and the weekend. Drinking is a pretty big part of my friends' social lives, and because this is a holiday weekend, there are lots of barbecue-type occasions on the docket where there will be both lots of alcohol and plenty of people smoking away.
 
I know the easy answer to this dilemma is just to stay home, but a) that sounds boring and miserable and b) it seems counterproductive to avoid these kinds of scenarios instead of facing them head-on, right? I can't stay away from everyone forever. I already know I can't drink and won't be able to for a while, but any other good tips or tricks for resisting temptation at social occasions? (Besides stuffing my face with all the amazing food in sight. Because that goes without saying.)
 
Thanks!
10 years ago 0 54 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Day 2 of my fifth try

Hi, Ashley, and thanks for the kind words, both here and on my post about the upcoming weekend festivities.
 
My husband and I managed to drink at a social occasion last night without smoking, which is a huge accomplishment for us! It didn't feel very fun at the time, but when we woke up this morning we felt amazing and were really proud of ourselves. So much better than having a sore throat and smelling like an ashtray. We spent a little time congratulating ourselves for being so awesome before getting ready to go about our days.
 
I have to go to Target today to refill a prescription and get some household stuff we need. That sounds like a stupid trigger, but sadly, it is one for me, because big box store shopping really stresses me out. Between the insane parking situation and the crazy/rude customers and walking ten miles to find what I need and the endless checkout lines, by the end I'm always ready to fire up a relaxing smoke in the car. But I made myself a nice soothing playlist that I plan to listen to on my iPhone while I shop and another sing-along one to give me something to do in the car, and I am hoping they will help me get through it.
 
Right now I'm feeling a little less depressed every single day, but it's up and down. Coming here and venting about every stupid thing I am feeling really helps, though! 
10 years ago 0 54 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I made a decision to stop smoking today

Don't beat yourself up too much! That could happen to anyone and it doesn't mean you failed or that it's not worth trying again. Is a diet a failure when you have a piece of cake? No, it's just a totally understandable setback that you can learn from to do better in the future. The meaner you are to yourself about this, the more you will want to smoke. You have to be kind to yourself and focus on the good, hard work you have done more than this slip-up.
 
I'm trying to pay attention right now to the things that really make me want to smoke so I can avoid them for a while. Red wine definitely falls in that category for me, and it sounds like it does for you too. Don't get too bogged down in feeling bad. Just learn from this experience that red wine won't be your drink for the next little bit, and keep on keeping on.
 
We are all here for you!
10 years ago 0 54 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
A year from now you?ll wish you?d started a year ago

I can't believe I am almost through my first week! The first few days felt endless but yesterday actually went by pretty easily. I stayed busy all day with the farmer's market and butcher shop, then cooking and having friends over for dinner. The friends stayed until about 10 and then I did some work until midnight, when I got in bed with my book. I couldn't believe how LATE it felt and how EARLY it was compared to how late I would have stayed up on a weekend night if I were still smoking.
 
The cravings are better and worse than I expected at this point. Better in the sense that I do find myself going longer and longer periods of time without thinking about smoking, but worse because when those cravings do hit they are just awful. I have found it helpful to tell myself that they will go away in a few minutes, and they do, but oh my god, while they are happening I can't think about anything else and I want to scream.
 
I'm also still having some physical side effects. I'm not sleeping especially well, and my stomach is all screwed up. My husband suggested I cheat and take a Benadryl to get a good night's sleep, but I feel like that'll just take me backwards. How long did those last for you guys? When did you start to feel normal again?
 
Finally, I wanted to share something I saw on Facebook that I really liked, from a high school friend of mine who lost a hundred pounds in the past year. She said that someone told her, "A year from now, you'll wish you'd started a year ago." I keep thinking that I wish I was already on the other side of this thing, and then I remind myself of that quote -- a year from now I will be so glad I started a year ago.
10 years ago 0 54 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Through my first week!

A week ago today I woke up in the morning and thought "I really don't want to do this. Do I have to?" And then I reminded myself that I had to do it sometime. And what followed was an absolutely excruciating day of wanting to throttle everyone I encountered, but somehow, I made it to bedtime.
 
Even though I still don't feel back to normal -- whatever that is -- the way I felt this morning compared to that morning a week ago is so much better! The first few days I couldn't stop the thought of my first cigarette from popping into my mind, but this morning all I was thinking about was my new routine, which is making really good fresh-ground French press coffee. (Put Saigon cinnamon in your grounds! You won't regret it!) And about how badly my legs are hurting from running a mile up the hill I live on Monday and then doing power yoga for an hour and a half last night.
 
The hardest times for me now are the afternoons. They're like this doldrums in the day where things I don't want to think about can pop up willy nilly. I wake up and power through whatever work I have to do (it takes a lot less time now that I'm not smoking in between tasks to reward myself), and by 4 or 5 I'll start thinking about what I'm going to make for dinner, but from 2 to 4 there's just this low time where I've finished the bulk of my work but don't have anything else to do.
 
But it's happened enough times in a row now that I know it will pass. By the time I am ready to start prepping dinner, I've usually forgotten all about it. Today I plan to spend the low time at the laundromat, so hopefully having a task to do will help.
 
Thanks to everyone for the things you have written here, both to me and in older discussions. I've read a lot of them and they have been really helpful to me. I'm so proud of myself for getting to my eighth day smoke-free!
10 years ago 0 54 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Work stress

I'm so amazed and inspired by those of you in this community who are retired and have smoked for a really long time. I often think "If someone who smoked for 40 years can do it, so can I!" That being said, I was wondering if anyone else here is still working full-time and having to cope with work stress, and if so, how they handle it.
 
I think my job is somewhat more stressful than average. I handle ten clients for a small company; for some of these clients, the point people I work with are awesome, but for others, the point people are stupid, rude, lazy, or otherwise problematic. Case in point, I had to proof and format a long document for a client at the last minute on Friday, and the point person kept e-mailing me ALL WEEKEND insisting that the PDF version of the document had "different fonts" than the Word version. Which is impossible because I made the PDF directly from the Word version. But she is a computer-illiterate idiot who makes three times as much money as me to do nothing, so she didn't realize that she was looking at the PDF at a different zoom level than the Word doc and that's why the fonts looked different. She e-mailed me eight times over the weekend getting increasingly pissed off as she kept insisting I had screwed up. She didn't understand that I couldn't fix the problem because the problem was nonexistent. She even had the gall to copy my boss on one of the e-mails, presumably so he could see how incompetent I was being and punish me. I wanted to throw a brick through a wall.
 
Smoking has gotten me through SO MANY of those situations over the years and now I am finding I have to create new ways to handle them. A few that have been successful for me so far are putting on some soothing music, taking deep breaths, reading for a few minutes and then coming back, and, when all else fails, writing the incredibly nasty response e-mail I am dying to send and then deleting it, just to get the frustration out of my system. Still, at nine days quit I find that more than anything else -- drinking, having a rich meal, whatever -- work stress makes me think about smoking. And, in fact, the last time I quit what broke it wasn't a night out with smoking friends or something like that; it was work stress. Anybody have any awesome secret coping techniques to share? Or do I just have to get used to dealing with this stuff without the help of cigarettes?