Crushing Isolation
Good morning Hugs,
I have felt like I don't belong many times myself..I was Agoraphobic for many years and still am to some extent. For me it is like being a stranger in a strange land..
One thing that has helped me a lot is doing exposure work..For instance taking my first class in over 20 years. Taking these classes has helped me find a place where I fit in.. It did take time for me to be accepted into the quilting class I take..This is my third semester I am starting to fit in..Some of my classmates have been taking this class for many years..When I go into class many of them call me by name now and we are developing friendships..
Like Davit said some groups are kind of cliquish and hard to get into. Some aren't worth the trouble if they really are not you.
My partner and I belonged to a club for a long time that really wasn't us and so we left that club and joined another club where that we really like and fit into just fine....Some clubs and groups are just not the right fit..So don't let one group of people discourage you, keep trying and you will find a place where you fit in just fine.
You mentioned in one of your posts that you were taking a home renovation class and that when the class would meet the following week that you and some of your classmates would discuss how you were progressing with your projects..Like installing a toilet for instance and how was it coming along..
What I am trying to point out to your is that you are fitting in..This exposure you have been doing is proving that and it is teaching you how to be part of a group at the same time...
How is it going with this class now? Is this a ongoing class? If not have you started to explore some other classes you would like to take? Your classmate may have some classes they have taken before that they liked..Maybe you could ask them?
I think you are getting better and that you just didn't realize it.....
Sid.....
