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I?m Going to be a Grandmother Who

Hey Aloha!  What a great post!  Congratulations on becoming a Grandmother - how exciting!  You'll be such a fun one!  The little ones are gonna love spending time with you! 
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I Hated this Site yesterday!

Hey JoDee and Cozmo; Well, it's Friday night - just wondering how you're doing with your weekend plans?  JoDee, are you still on board for your depatching this weekend?  If so, I wish you much strength and resolve - You know the whole post about prunes was an attempt to find some humor in this Quit that sometimes seems impossible to achieve. Nevertheless, the truth is that I was petrified to try a CT quit without finding some way to quickly get the nicotine out of my system.  The prunes were a good idea except I overdid them to punish myself for being a 'bad addict'. If on day 1 of CT now, (or for you and Cozmo,when coming off the patch) I'd probably go with a good fresh fruit diet; grab one of those great deli-made veggie platters with hummus dip; stuff some raw almonds into whole dates & prunes; chill some sparkling water; steep some lemon tea & curl up in my fleecies and read. With hard candies & ice chips on hand - I believe it would've been nice and still accomplish the same goal.  So that's what I'd actually recommend if heading down the patchless path when you're ready to do so. For my 3rd NOPE weekend, the sugar shack awaits - hubcap on board to keep our space tobacco free - just  woodstove warm & vanilla candles to keep cozy and reminisce - a chance to reflect on what we are grateful for and those we love after a trying week.  Take care Quit buddies! Have a great weekend with NOPE for all ~
13 years ago 0 823 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Irrational Fear

Thank you Shevie and Nonic for those kind words - I was a mess over this thing the past few days - I didn't anticipate this outcome with our new little friend - I felt like I'd somehow brought even more grief into my family's lives at a raw emotional time by bringing kitty home at all!  You're right Shevie - out kitty did need someone to love him fully and completely through his short stay on earth - and we surely did that! Thanks for that win-win perspective! Nonic - you're right! Smoking can't change anything, but Not smoking changes everything - when I chose Not to Smoke & Drink myself into oblivion over this, I realized I had more strength than I knew!  I faced the grief head on & more issues surfaced regarding my Dad's death & worrying about my Mom being on her own now. I used to try to be a 'funny' and thought I was indestructible, & could smoke/drink forever and somehow beat the odds. But it was a veil that masked the truth; I never dealt with anything that way! So this NOPE attitude along with this wonderful SSC network really can change everything!  Off to work now! Much to do today! Hope you're having a  great NOPE weekend too 
13 years ago 0 823 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I Hated this Site yesterday!

Thanks Tiana & Shevie - The sun is shining in my neck of the woods and it's beautiful down by the ocean today! I never thought of the frozen grapes idea - good one Shevie.  And guess what?  Since hubby agreed to our mutual smoke free space, he has cut down on his own smoking as well!  I told him that from now on, I am visualizing his cigars as 'smoking prunes' and how ridiculous he looks with one of them hanging out of his mouth!  He didn't like that! He hasn't smoked at all since he got home this weekend; his non smoking breath makes him much more kissable now too! And he does like that!  Amazing!
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PRT Versus NRT

LOL Shevie!  
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Poetry Corner

Oww!  On the latest.  Good posts Pen.
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Hiya folks. :)

Hey ShyOne!  Hey JoDee!  Hey Cozmo! Hey Kiwi (with your impressive New Years' quit of 2005!)  And Hi to everyone checking in on this post today  -  I need to go to work soon, but will have time to read more posts tonight. For now:  BIG BEAR HUGS Back 2 U 2 Roxie (ShyOne) & JoDee!  So sorry about your toe Rox! OWWWW! $#@&^^!! Hopefully your can keep your tootsies up on a pillow while watching Netflix today.  So glad you're keeping the quit even though your quit bud bailed on you! You don't sound selfish to me BTW! We seem to have a similar quit style - perhaps you can take a boo at Nonic's last msg on JoDee's 'Irrational Fear' post regarding the smoking/alcohol connection - his points make sense - I had to really think about them - maybe will help U  2   and JoDee! You're Patchless (just like CT now!) and going to the gym; hanging out with your girls - Awesome!  My stomachaches went away as soon as I dropped the patch too BTW - not sure why.  I left U a msg somewhere here ?? (duh!) about be kind to yourself with nice fresh fruit/veggie platters when you drop the patches - it was meant to help you find a nice way to get nicotine free - not to punish yourself with overdoing the prunes as I did - the whole reward idea is so much more humane!  Gotta run! Glad You are all here and we can say NOPE together!  
13 years ago 0 823 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Poetry Corner

Hello Poetry Corner Gatherers   Thank you Pen for including this thread to SSC - I love your posts.  Very poignant, as Tiana mentions, but relevant.  I hope it's OK with you to add a poem I wrote - I've been having bad dreams lately - awake at 3:00 AM every night the last week - my brain feels fuzzy and I'm falling behind in work and obligations -  Have lost loved ones recently and feel very sad at times. I haven't smoked since my Quit day Feb 1, 2011 (NOPE is my new lifeline now!) But my lungs are sore - way worse than before I quit - they feel fluidy - Will get to Doc soon I guess.  Meantime, it does seem to help to write.  So from the throes of 3:00 AM, I'm getting this one off my chest: not sure if others will relate, but hope it's okay to share here: 
 
A Cheater's Decree
 
Grim Reaper did cast his cold glance upon me; He dared visit me whilst I did slumber
And so I cried out with a willful protest; but He cast my aspersions asunder
This nightmare consumes me; From whence did it spring? The deceptions I foster inside?
Must I repent? Must I pay for my actions? What is the price then? Confide!
 
How deliciously sweet my desire of the moment; 'Til time festered it into a boil
That has blackened my heart and tears at my conscience; Where my guilt will not leave me alone 
 What is the cost of this addiction I wonder? Already I've tendered my heart and my soul
Now must I lay down my life on the line? To forfeit my body as well as my soul?
 
What are His intentions? I am driven by fear; Though I yet appear concrete and whole
Should I ask for Forgiveness? Would it make any difference? Now that His presence to me has been shown? 
  For His image does haunt me; with jaws gaping wide; He is dripping saliva; just biding His time
 
He steps to the sidelines; peers out from the shadows; His Omniscience chills me to the bone  
For ultimately I know that one day when He beckons; I will answer the Grim Reaper's call
But I can't help but wonder -  If my own indiscretions -  Have helped hasten His process along
Eya 
 
 
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I Hated this Site yesterday!

Hey Cozmo - It's always nice to see your Aussie/American Avatar waving freely in the 'logged in' window!  So glad you're now enjoying the benefits of kissing your sweetie since your Quit!  Something else you could add to 'breathing' as one of your hobbies perhaps? My hubby works in fabrication/machining, and it's weird how many of his co workers smoke - they don't seem to be closet smokers either; they're quite vocal; even proud to be smokin'/drinkin buds.  My hubby has not said he plans to quit for good (yet!) but he's finally being respectful of my Quit. Now that he understands how important it is to me, he doesn't sabotage it by handing over a smoke right away when I seem 'weak'.  This gives me time to gain resolve and muster the courage to keep the Quit!  Also, my hub isn't a heavy smoker - he can go a whole day/weekend without a smoke if he's out fishing with our young teenage non smoking sons . . . (but he does like to smoke for relaxation, when he's at work with the guys and when he's driving). He's never understood my 'addiction' and thinks he can have a puff  - smoke if he wants and quit anytime he wants to, so why can't I?  But he gets it now! And the kissable lips factor is definitely one that has worked well for motivation for both of us!  LOL eya 
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cold turkey!

Wow! Hi Jazz :)  Such awesome support here from the other new quitters; great advice & generous welcomes from the more seasoned quitters, and inspiring encouragement from the Health Educators!
Yay JoDee!- I thought about you all weekend! So glad you're doing it; just like CT now! That nicotine will be out of your system in no time. How great!  Hey Roxie, Cozmo, Megan? Pray4Me and all the other newbies here. Glad  you're all here too and saying NOPE!