Hi rohit
I have found that everyone has something they are good at. Some are very good at what they do. So it is a shame when they let the fear of failure get in the way. But if they were physically unable to do it it would not be considered failure. Yet a person who really wants to do something (me) will find a way around the disability. I accept my limitations both physical (I get help) and mental (I'm doing the best I can at the moment) Therefore I am not failing. I just am not up to what I think my potential could be. I could be wrong. This could be the best I can be. In which case I am not failing, I'm just not as capable as I would like to be and I will keep trying. But any improvement is Bonus over My threshold level. We all have this threshold level and are sometimes above, sometimes below. Are you aiming too high? Why? Are you trying to be something you are not meant to be or don't really want to be?
Before you can be who you want to be you have to be you and then build on this. Find your threshold level and accept it even if it seems like failure. Even if it is not what you want it to be. When you are comfortable with it then challenge it with attempts to do what you fear.
If you are doing nothing right now that is a pretty easy threshold level to add to and anything is an improvement. Don't rush. Don't jump ahead till you are comfortable. Like building a house, you can't put the roof on till you have walls.
It will seem slow and like failure but it isn't and the best way to prove this is to live the feared failure than to fear it and hide. Living it is the only way to prove it wrong. (core belief) You have to start somewhere.
All truly great persons start out just being who they are and add on through discoveries. They start with a certain threshold level and move it up. What they do and make look easy is their threshold level, acquired over time and added to. It was not always there.
Ashley is right. Keep working the program and challenge this fear of failure. And I think this attitude towards failure.
In my life I have had to start over from the beginning more than once. This I guess is failure. (and I lived it) But I am now what I can be and that is not failure nor do I fear it.
Davit.