Davit is good at challenging my thoughts and I'm good at nit picking my brain for answers. I've learned a lot being here since June. I continue to learn daily to find answers and challenge myself to prevent panic attacks. It's a good progress.
I need this as well. There is a hypnosis audio I listing to that instructs you to hug yourself and lightly rock back and forth. It is very comforting. It lacks the comfort of another holding you though. I would try this if I lived in Oregon.
I set the boundaries, I went over and beyond with my emotional feelings with this specific person. I explained what I expected and what I wanted from this relationship with said person. All of these things went over well for a few days and then it was back to the same things again. Now I am back to feeling like I am walking on eggshells. I'm wondering if it's me letting the situation slide back into the same routine or if it is said person. I'd most likely say it's not me, but I'm passive, so I have to wonder if I need to work stronger on my assertiveness skills. I won't give up on me, because I really hate panic attacks. Maybe it's time to give up on trusting someone else's word and just concentrate on my own word. I'm still trying to find the core belief and trigger for changing how I react to said person.
When I responded to Ashley's response about not being able to change a person, but it being possible to influence, I didn't take into consideration all of the responses afterwards and in no way was it meant towards Davit.
Being vague about this trigger person is part of this being a safe forum and remaining anonymous. I'm sorry for the confusion and am just looking for answers on how to deal with this person as a trigger towards my anxiety and panic.
I didn't give up finding an answer. It all boils down to boundaries and then setting consequences for when those boundaries are crossed. If there are no consequences, the actions will continue repeatedly. With that being known now, it makes this seem easier. Anyone who has set boundaries knows this isn't so. It's easy with children. With adults it's much more difficult when you share the same space with them.
I have been here since June and most recently discovered some not so good things in regards to my panic attacks and agoraphobia that has helped me greatly. Along with the CBT here, I am reading a book in regards to boundaries and have numerous helpful friends who believe in being held accountable. Is anyone holding you accountable? You want to take accountability, by taking the first step and admitting it. Now you need someone to hold you accountable for your actions when you withdraw. Make it a goal of "want to" instead of have to like Davit suggested. Good luck and looking forward to hearing about your successes with this.
In the beginning I did this with a holistic approach. First and foremost you should see a Dr to have blood work done. Just to see if it is something as simple as low magnesium, calcium, and/or a vitamin deficiency of any sort. Secondly, if you want to try a holistic approach, there is a book "The Anxiety and Phobia Workbork" Fifth edition" that has suggestions for holistic nutrition near the back of book. I still take 2 of the over the counter suggestions daily and my Dr is comfortable with me taking them along with my current medication. Hope this helps you with your holistic approach.
Look at a room full of people and you will know 8 of those 24 have some form of mental disorder. CBT is used for more than just Panic attacks and Agoraphobia, it is also used for PTSD, Bipolar and a few other mental illnesses that could help people obtain more of a quality of life.
If you have read any of the forum and didn't understand what was suggested, reread it with an open mind until you are able to grasp the concept. If you still don't understand, ask. Someone in the forum will be able to help explain.
80% cured thanks to this CBT and the good people here.
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