Hey there, I think I have a "situation" here. I have offered to help my sister-in-law take our father-in-law to the hospital for a scope that needs to be done. The whole hospital thing frightens me where I'm getting worked up. This is the hospital where my Dad worked and also became a patient and then passed away there, (this was a while ago though), that I think I have dealt with, but it's just the smell of the hospital (a trigger), and then the whole atmosphere. What was I thinking!!!
I'm going to try my exercises to keep calm and in control, I may have to step out for a break (a coffee run, I'm sure I'll be buzzing by the end of the day from caffeine), but I'm sure I'll get through this. I guess I just needed to vent.
Well, here goes...this makes us stronger, I just have to remember that.
Hey there, I get what you're saying Kittcat and I agree with what Danielle is saying. I'm much a perfectionist and when it comes to household "duties", I find that if I'm not sure how I'm going to do it, instead of just trying and if it doesn't work out, do it again another way, I just feel overwhelmed and I don't do it at all. If it can't be done correctly the first time, I don't do it right away.
But now, how I look at things in this situation is that I just do it, not think about it and find it doesn't take that long to do. I don't give into the "overwhelming" part, I give myself an hour to, let's say, clean rooms, pick up clothes from everyone and then put other clothes away. Once I do it, it looks nice in their rooms and I feel good about it. It works when you give yourself a time limit and then once that time limit is up, it's "me time". I definitely don't feel guilty about the "me" time either. It really does work well, just try it and give it a chance.
Good luck :)
I did it!!! I survived today...the smell of the hospital did give me the willies, but focusing on something else did help. I just find it so amazing how triggers, any triggers, can just set you off, what power we give them, if we allow this.
Thank you for your kindness Sylvie...now I'm exhausted, a good exhaustion :).
Maggie
I'm feeling very panicky right now. I didn't have a good sleep, my mind was racing, feeling all my aches and pains, I'm feeling really scared. I can't seem to calm myself down enought to do some of the exercises...we'll try it again.
...thank you Sylvie...I was doing ok for a while, then bam, it starts again. I brought up the pmdd on a different topic, but wondering if this is it and does having pmdd make your anxiety worse plus I went off the ciprelex because my counsellor told me it's probably the way I'm thinking now and not the ciprelex that making things work for me. I was on such a low dose. If this is pmdd controlled, being on ciprelex is not a bad thing of what I have read. My doctor had suggested pmdd earlier to me.
Am I making any sense or am I just rambling. I know my physical pains are real but are they real to the point of flippin out.
Thank you for your response, I just needed to talk. :) Thank you for this site!!!
It's like PMS, but more involved. It's called Premenstrual Dysporic Disorder. The symptoms of PMS are more pronounced, especially the anxiety and depression.
Hi Kristy, I do too know how you feel. I moved away from home to work in another city, there was only one person there I knew and we didn't have the greatest relationship. As years went on, that one person and I decided that we should not be together and we split. A couple of years later, I met my husband and them bam. He lived back home and we would see each other on weekends. But all this triggered something in me and I grew very panicky and had many anxiety attacks. I too quit my job, became very much on my own and I eventually moved back home. I couldn't understand where these feelings were coming from.
Now, 20 years later, through many months of therapy and meds, I have figured out what my triggers are that set me off, this ranged from the how sweet my boyfriend was to me at that time (I guess he still is), haven't had that kind of relationship before, this triggered earlier memories for me, and for him coming and going (leaving me during the week to go back home), feeling abandoned. This is when I moved back home.
I know that feeling of helplessness, you want to fix it immediately, hyou want those feelings to go away...it takes time and it will happen. This program helps with finding out what triggers these responses in us...it's so amazing how everything works. You need to find out what sets you off...on my end, I know can see what my triggers are, I too am afraid of getting sick and leaving my family, but I now know where that stems from and can intellectually understand it and also emotionally understand it.
Does this make any sense? I hope it helps....many of us do and are going through this...gosh I still have moments, those days, I'm overly nice to myself...no expectations.
Take care...keep writing.
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