You know what, it's these physical symptoms that are so real. I was telling my husband about them and explaining that to me, they are real, he says "you don't know what's wrong, I'm jumping the gun on my diagnosis, how do I know it's that". He's right and when I do feel good, I can look back and say,"yes, I can see myself jumping the gun and maybe it's as simple as this", but when I'm in that state, boy, I've got full blown this. It's hard to get out of. If I don't change, I will end up sicker than I think. Thanks Danielle for listening...feels like I'm walking on eggshells
Danielle, why do I go through these swings, sometimes I feel I have things under control and others, I've gone the other way. Sometimes I feel like I'm "snapping". It's a strong, real effort to do something different to change my patterning, is this normal or should it come naturally? This anxiety I've had for a while (15 years), I would think it will be hard until I get moving, correct? But the one thing I can't seem to get passed is and I know this sounds ridiculous, is that if I worry about this physcial symptom, then maybe it won't happen and it will go away on it's own. I know wharped thinking...please give me time...I told my husband this morning, "I'm going to be ok"... Thanks Danielle
Today, I tried really hard to do this, had a few flaws, but I managed!! You are right, one day at a time...thanks for having this program available...it's a relief that you can go to this anytime and talk...thanks. On to tomorrow :)
Thanks Diva, I really do appreciate it, also to Danielle, thank you. I didn't sleep well last night, but I also didn't get up in the night and come to the computer and start searching physical symptoms. So today, I'm a little tired, this, I'm finding doesn't help, but I know this will pass and I know this will also take time, it's hard...sorry for the whining and tears, honest, I'm trying.
One day at a time...let's try it again. I'm not on any meds as of now, only a med that calms heart palpitations, how do I ask for something to help stablize me or do you let your doctor offer? I know I asked a few years ago and she said that "I think you're more overwhelmed than depressed".
Not sure on that one or even if that's the right thing? Anyone comment?
Thanks again, it really does help.
You know, you're the only one who can do this...trust me I've just figured this out and it's going to be hard work. It's a true effort but like you said, you have to do what is best for your health. I come back and forth to this program, but it will be a continuous effort for me, but in time, we will learn how to deal with these panic and anxiety attacks.
I find I have to stop my negative thinking in it's track, and when this happens, I stop what I'm doing and do something completely different to change my thought and activities. This usually helps, it's hard but I know I have to do this to change.
You can do this, one day at a time, we all can do this...it doesn't matter what people think, your friends and family will understand and will support you. I find this site a very useful and helpful place.
Good luck
I seem to have my anxiety and panic somewhat under control through EMDR treatment and I'm getting to know what I want for myself and what's important to me and how to get it, or I think I do. But what I was wondering is I've had a friend for atleast 20 years, it's been off and on again, but going through these treatments and finally knowing what I want and what I think is good for me doesn't include this friend. When I'm around her, I've always felt intimidated but I always took it, but now, I don't have interest in being with her. She's very much like my husband, likes to be center of attention, very loud, and I think very insecure. (I have issues with him also). She keeps calling, I don't have the heart to say anything, so I've just not called her back. I know that's not nice, she herself has a lot of issues, maybe it's just I can't handle more issues than I'm dealing with.
Does this make any sense to anyone? Sorry, I'm rambling...
You know, I have found that there are people in this world that truly make you feel wonderful, that you are a very important person (it's too bad it's taken me 43 years to come to that realization) and then there are others who are out for you. I always thought I was being selfish when people would pay me a compliment or pay special attention to me, but I have now found out that being selfish is ok, you need to look after yourself (WOW, what a concept!!). I'm actually embarrassed saying that because it's such a simple thing, but with "baggage" in the way, that simple thing is a huge hill to get over.
EMDR has really helped me get to the bottom of my anxiety and panic, lets me sort out where it's stemming from. This friend is someone I don't think I want in my life. She tends to be very opinionated and I don't want that, people like that make me feel intimidated, that I'm no good. I guess, I've allowed her to make me feel that way.
I have found, you must surround yourself with positive things in life, again another simple sentence, but very true. Those positive things make you feel worthwhile and important, doesn't matter how little, or how big, feeling worthwhile feels huge.
Thanks for listening :)
It was really amazing how EMDR really helped me get to the bottom of my panic and anxiety, which then of course leads to depression. I would love to say I'm cured, I'm definitely not, but I do understand where these thoughts come from and why them stemmed from where they did. My therapist was awesome, she was funny, she was serious, she was empathetic, she was incredible.
I feel like a snob when it comes to people I don't want to be with, whereas before, I would spend time with them, but wouldn't enjoy it. I know trust my feelings and go with them. Trust was always a really hard thing for me to handle, myself and others. The "others", I'm getting better at.
One day at a time....
Thanks Diva, I do really appreciate what you have to say. I hope you know how much a positive person you are. You may not feel it sometimes, but you are. Thanks again. :)
Hey Diva, isn't that funny that we do that with compliments. I am too very uncomfortable accepting compliments from people. I can't just say thank you and leave it, I have to say "thank you, but blah, blah, blah".
Have a good night....
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