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Problems with avoidance


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I tend to avoid social interations with other people especially in crowds or with loud noises. Fortunately I do not avoid so many situations as in the past as I used to because I have been doing exposure work.
12 years ago 0 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
There is a difference between avoiding something because we want to and doing it because we can't at this point. A person with panic may not be able at this point to do something and still want to. This is okay. A person who doesn't do something because they don't want to is not trying and this is not a good thing. Better to try and fail temporarily than to not try at all. But still one must know their limitations. There will be things you just can not do. Just make sure it is so before giving in. Make sure you are not just avoiding the situation.

Davit

PS I have things I can not do and still things I avoid. I'm only human.
12 years ago 0 4027 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi V,
Probably speaking my mind, even though I can.  It's not something I've had much energy to do the last few years, since I was depleted, but I'm slowly gaining my strength back, so that I can be present.
12 years ago 0 1665 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi V:  When I was at my worse for panic, I could not attend social functions very well.  I still went to some, but it sure was difficult at times.  If I really didn't have to go, I didn't.  It's a sort of avoidance but it was done until I felt stronger physically and mentally.  I think that's o.k. waiting until you have the coping skills in place.  Once you understand what is happening to your body and your negative thinking patterns/style, you can begin again with more confidence.  I started going out to functions again slowly and made sure that I had a plan of action - that is coping techniques which I could use when needed in those areas.  Slowly but surely, it worked. 
 
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12 years ago 0 1853 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Members,

When we avoid things due to anxiety, we miss out. As you probably already know, escaping the situation you find yourself in when you have a panic attacks can lead to problems.

•    Problem 1: Some situations are more difficult to avoid than others. For instance, if you have a fear of snakes but you live in the city, it’s probably not a huge cause for concern. Chances are you’ll only be exposed to them at the zoo or pet store. However, if a person fears wide open spaces, crowds, shopping malls or riding in public transportation in can cause a much bigger problem.
•    Problem 2: Escaping & avoiding situations works well to reduce anxiety in the short-term. However, in the long-term avoidance makes things worse. The problem is that escaping works too well. When you escape a situation, you receive immediate relief. The result is you become really good at escaping and avoiding. When you think about it, not dealing with problems isn’t what you want to be good at.

What situations do you tend to avoid most?

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