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15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 910

HEllo Mom of 3,

I am so sorry to hear about all you are going through. I wish I could do more for you but all I can do is offer you my prayers, caring and support.

I do agree with Goofy that it would be good for you to get the key back eventually or to at least make him agree to knock and wait for you to open (in case you want him to have an emergency key). Boundaries are good I think.

And I know what it is like to feel so much on the brink, but we see strength in you as it is there. I think sometimes it is harder to se streght in ourselves then in others.

Hang in there and please feel free to vent or cry or anything with us anytime. We are all here for you.

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1044

Mom of 3

I think - key word here - think, you and your husband should set a time for you to get the key back. After all he is the one who decided to move out. Set those boundaries! I am so glad your son is doing well, I bet he also feels the tension in the household ease. I am glad to hear you are making some changes in the house.

I am sorry you are having to go through this! I can see that strength in you! I am glad you are taking it one day at a time and doing the best that you can - no one can ask for more!!!!

I'm glad you are seeing a therapist and find comfort in that (I do too). If I could, I come meet you and take you out to dinner. We'd get all dolled up and take your son to your favorite restaurant. I could tell you some of my corny jokes.

What did the hotdog say when it crossed the finish line? I'm a wiener. Told you they were corny!

I just went to church and listen to a Christian comedian.....I wish you could have been there - we could have laughed together. What a way to get my mind off things. I'm going to work on trying to find something to laugh at each day (I mean a good chuckle or a deep belly laugh). What a peaceful feeling that lingers even now.

I hope and pray you continue to find that strength and peace that lies within! Keep up the good work. I look forward to reading your new thread as you create a new life for you and your son! YOU CAN DO IT!

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 456

hi MO3

I know ... bravo. Keep up the good work. you son needs you.

now down to the practical. remember that you are still sensitive to the stress, and maybe the headack was a warning.

.remember to rest! the emotions and working thru them require energy!

. Schedual those pleasant activities to resource yourself, you will need those moments!

.we are here to cheer you on, but you will need you family and friends to give you real hugs and pats on the back! gather the troops.

.even when the world falls apart, you need to be well nourshed. If people ask if they help, Say: "YES cook me food and freeze it! "

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 955

Mom of 3, Although you may not think it, you are being incredibly strong through this all. You mentioned that you are seeing your counsellor on Wednesday. Perhaps this would be a good opportunity to discuss with him/her the issues surrounding communicating with your husband. This could include what to do about splitting up your things, giving him a key, and any other topics you are unsure how to approach.

Continue to focus on what has helped you cope through all of this. Your determination to make your life different will also help you.

Let us know how your session goes with your counsellor. Hopefully this will help the process.

Stay close Mom of 3 and let us know what we can do for you.

Sarah, Health Educator

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Hi Wildcat,

I have already started to rearrange some things but he isn't completely out yet and it doesn't feel exactly like my space. He still has the key and that doesn't make it mine. Since he isn't completely out I don't want to say anything but I want to at some point. He is calling before he comes over but once here walks on in.

Splitting the stuff is hard too. I have no idea if we're splitting it for good or temporary. I'm treating it as permanent. Today was hard we all went out for lunch and were together from 1 to 6 pm. It gave me a headache which left once he did. I guess that means something. I guess it's just the stress of it all. This was the person I had been the most comfortable with for years, maybe all my life and now I hardly know him. It's hard for me to separate what was from what is. I'm devastated by all this.

My pride, with help from God and the Abilify, keeps me from falling apart. I am finding the strength that I need for just the day Goofy. I don't have a clue about the future except I want a different life from what I have known. Someday I hope I find a soul mate and I hope my heart can be open enough to recognize him, whether it is my husband remains to be seen. I am so hurt that it feels like I'm dying. I know that actually this won't kill me and I know that I will live on providing I don't do something stupid to myself. I think I'm past that now. I've decided that no matter how hurt I am I will not allow myself to be defined by him. What he thinks is important to me, but when it tears me down then I must disagree and live on. I love him but I don't want to be controlled by him. Hopefully when I see my counselor on Wednesday she'll help me devise a plan for making sure I stick to this.

I see my doctor tomorrow and am glad. I know I'm thinking clearly and I know you all will tell me I'm being strong. I think I'm being sensible now but if I'm being strong it is more on the fringe of it. I feel like any minute I could fall off the cliff.

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 456

MO3

change the placement of the funiture to get a new dynamic going and a few new plants to clean the energy.

and a sweet incence to burn away the old.

this in now your space

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1693

Mom of 3,

Thanks for sharing and letting us know how you are doing. You are right, you have begun a new chapter in your life, and hopefully this chapter is filled with health and happiness. On that note, it is great to hear that your son is doing well.

Hang in there mom of 3, it will get better

Breanne, Bilingual Health Educator

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Hello Everyone,

I started a new thread because I am back to not having any answers. He moved out enough to stay at the other house so he is there now. I guess it's for the best but I don't really feel that way inside, just stating something I wish I could believe. Whatever happens from here is a new chapter for sure. It still feels like limbo as everything is an if. If he comes back we'll move elsewhere and not back into the house we did share. If If IF - I hate that word.

Anyway the houses I looked at today are not feasible. I am looking at just staying here for now. It's probably easier than moving but not for me emotionally. Strange thing is he wants me to stay here. My counselor says he's controlling, maybe she's right. Maybe I'm easily controlled. Everything is to be oh so civil. I want to scream!!! But here I am and my son would really rather stay here.

On the one bright note, my little man is doing fine. He has a chair of his own where dad's used to be. He set up his laptop and is playing his video games and streaming music on the computer - he likes electronica (yuk!!) He told his dad goodbye like he was going to work without any tears. I wish I could say the same.

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