The thing about people in my life is that they probably aren't being negative on purpose. Since I was young my mom has always said harsh things to put to me down and when I tell her what she's done wrong she'll apologize but won't change the way she speaks to me. Unfortunately, I have had low self-esteem from a very young age. My stepfather was also the type of person to ignore me a lot and constantly ask why I wasn't doing better in school. Even if I only had one question wrong on a test, he'd ask me why I didn't get a perfect grade. As positives they raised me, support my career path and always help me out financially if they can.
It is confusing to know who I can reach out to because once I tell a friend or relative that I have depression they tell me to get rid of my "stupid thoughts" so that I can get better. So I would say that even the people who have played an important role in my life have also brought down my self-esteem at one point.
I have yelled, cried and said that my thoughts aren't stupid. I'll ignore my loved ones and have pushed quite a few away and will speak to them when I feel my depression lift. I have tried to constantly explain what I am going through but because of the stigma around depression, people just don't understand. My partner and counsellor are the only supportive people in my life right now and that's okay right now.
Well my schedule revolves around going to school, work and home. I rarely go out so for me, it hasn't been hard to distance myself from people. Through social media and my phone I often had people trying to reach out to me but I made excuses a lot such as needing to do school work and I am 'too busy" to see them right now. I actually just ended my friendship with someone yesterday. I told the person that they were way too negative for me to keep in my life. While it hurt at first, I know that I need to surround myself with positive people who support me and my decisions. That's what helps me to distance myself from those who are negative.
If you ever come across other posts of mine, you'll see that I too have lost friends because of depression and have even had a hard time getting them to relate to me. It's hard when people don't understand what you're going through. As Ashley has said, you're not in this alone! Let's support each other!
It was strong of you to reach out on the site! I have learned that it is okay to feel down sometimes, we can't always be happy but we need to learn to balance everything so that we can be healthy.Just remember to come back on the site, go through the programs and even look at some activities that might help you cope. For me personally, I usually go for a walk when I'm feeling down, it helps me to get some fresh air and it lets me think about what's going on and how I can challenge those thoughts. We're all here to support each other! What do you think could help you cope?
Although I have tried to give myself some specific goals that I have really enjoyed in the past, I find that I never go through with my goals. I end up making excuses like being too tired, lacking energy or being too busy. It gets frustrating at times because lately I'm extremely worn out (more so physically nowadays as opposed to mentally). Can anyone offer any tips or suggestions to help me out?
The 3 goals that I have tried are:
-going for a walk at a park once a week
-playing board games with my sisters once a week (I try really hard to do this one)
-read a chapter from a book once a week
I still love reading and going out for walks...I've just had a hard time lately doing these activities. Help!
Sometimes I try a 'just do it' kind of mentality and it has worked at times but at other times it hasn't. I'm not always sure how to just do something without thinking about why I'm so tired or unmotivated. But I will continue to try to do it and take ~m's advice on 10-15 minutes instead of an hour. Smaller steps may be the key.
I have been trying really hard to stay positive and even though my mom knows everything going on with me she remains to be negative and bring me down. I have been challenging her words more and more lately but to be honest, I'm really work down. I feel so happy outside of the house but when I get home it's like I'm being strangled by negativity and her lack of support. She made it clear today that she will not be helping em at all to pay for school and won't be helping my sisters either. She also made it clear that the money she's saving is for "more important things".
Being at home makes me suicidal so I really don't know what to do anymore. I keep trying to challenge her way of thinking but it's like she forgets what I say the next second. I feel hopeless at home and moving out isn't going to be until a little later. I'm hoping by the end of this year...we'll see.
Sorry it took me so long to get back to this but I just want to say thank you. This has helped me a bit and I've also been trying other forms of mindfulness.
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