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9 years ago 0 101 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
understanding anxiety

I feel a natural flow of anxiety in myself when situation goes against me;
When I am in challanging role where you have to prove your worth.
In other situations I feel good & comfortable.This was natural in me when I was in
highscool around 18 yrs back.I felt to have treatment of it in 1997 when I was 17.There was hard time
for me.But one feel from inner;I will prove myself.I will breakthru this anxiety.
In 2006 inspite of depression nd anxious behaviour I decide to leave my home for a good 
opportunity.It was a hard time;I was not able to understand what was happening to me.
I felt a good time from 2007-10.But time was horrible from 2011.I felt there is some real
problem with me.But my doctor said me it is treatable.I will be alright.But situation goes 
worse.I was under big pressure from my bosses side for performance.I saw a decline in my health
daily.Every body ask me question.How u are getting so weak & depressed.I went for good session 
of CBT but all in vain.In Nov 2012 I finally left my good job.I HAVE NOW ACCEPTED MY ANXIETY.
I HAVE NOW MADE MY OWN BOUNDARY.Crossing these boundries will tend to bring back anxiety. 
Its a flight situation for me.Else what Can I do?I have now accepted myself as it is. 
I avoid challanges;avoid big roles;avoid big responsibilities.But from inner I REALLY WANT 
TO PERFORM;REALLY WANT BIG ROLES.But FEAR OF ANXIETY MADE ME TO AVOID ALL GOOD THINGS & CHALLANGES.
One POSITIVE I want to share with u guys.I have now started getting good assignments from
my clients.Its not very good but I have some level of satisfaction from last one month.
I am doing good.This is will be for next 3 months.I hope to get some more good even after these 
3 months.
Thanks for reading my post friends

rohit131
9 years ago 0 101 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
understanding anxiety

Satisfaction.......
yes Davit I feel quite satisfied;Mental satisfaction.There are almost no panic attacks.The panic behaviour is now changed.I feel better.Its all because I make now a limited exposure to situations which cause me panic.
I am likely to increase this exposure in a slow & steady manner.
I feel satisfied mentally.I feel dissatisfied from my social status & money. But now I feel confidence.I feel good & enjoy my work now. Keeping my anxiety in control is now the top priority for me.Money comes second.Previously It was not with me.

rohit131
9 years ago 0 101 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
unwanted thoughts & depression

Today my boss in office discuss some thing which hurts me.She said why you always look so stressful & disturbed.U do not look happy.What negative is going with u along.Actually while doing my work I dont know when I started getting depressed.I think there is no reason behind this nd my nature is depressive.Previously depression was almost full day with strong magnitude;around 2 yrs back.Now still some traces are left although I feel much better & comfortable.Its like computer virus.It spreads without any message;without warning.I feel heavy headed & depression reflects clearly from my face.I want to get rid but seems difficult.
I don't know why it happens.My nature is depressive;may be negative core belief...or else what? need some home work to be done.
rohit131
9 years ago 0 101 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
unwanted thoughts & depression

Sometimes I feel about it as a behaviour problem.But many times I think there is some chemical imbalance.
I am now seeing positive effects of medicine which I saw rarely in my last 17 yrs.I am able to manage things to a level.
But only medicine will not make u brave & happy.It is basically CBT which is needed to me.Constant challanging of your negative thoughts will definitely help to neutralize thoughts;if not positive.
But then sometimes I ask to God-why me ?
Thanks for the picture comment .

rohit131
9 years ago 0 101 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
unwanted thoughts & depression

Davit,
I read your post again & again.You come out with a wonderful conclusion.That I need
support for what I am doing; nd more that I dont want comments that hurts me.
If I get support for my work I am almost alright.
But support is not always there.There are a maximum of challanges & least of support.
Life is not so easy.I know this very well;I m very well aware of challanges of life.
But I tend to loose confidence drastically in challanging situations.
I just want to change myself but change is very slow & in a small magnitude.
So I avoid big roles & challanges. Avoidance is not a solution but it relieves me.
I have a mental peace now.
May be I can change myself for challanging roles.How ? its yet a big question.
Thanks Davit nd friends for your support here

rohit131
9 years ago 0 101 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
my symptoms of anxiety in past

Almost 2 yrs back I left my job because my anxiety was getting over me.
My symptoms of anxiety were as follows-
1.Increased heart beat
2.Restlessness
3.Extreme fear of boss bully
4.Extreme fear of colleagues;they comment was on my anxiety and I was the centre of discussion
5.Confusion;inability to take decision
6.Very much depressed in morning time when I have to leave for office;extreme feel of nausea.Due to this no breakfast in 
   morning
7.Sweat all times due to fear
8.Severe weight loss.Seemed to be thin & lean.

So I was not left with any option but to quit my good job.Now I am doing a job of low profile & less salary.
But my mind is stable now.Almost all symptoms of anxiety are gone now.I feel happiness & also enjoy life.
My personality was something that was not able to hold the work pressure at my job.
I again want to join for a good job.But past failures and anxiety prevents me doing that.
Pl suggest how to make strong from inner so that I again feel myself confident to return for a good job.
Any body gone thru this kind of situation;pl suggest
Thanks for reading & suggestions

rohit131
9 years ago 0 101 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
difficult to focus on anxious thought

I feel difficulty in identifying my anxioius thoughts.
My nature is such that anxiety starts for almost no reason.
Anxiety is clearly visible on my face and I get sweat.
My boss comments why you look so down.What is there that makes you
so tensed & depressed.
I dont know why it happens but it is there & I want to get rid.
Sometimes fear of panic also increases anxiety.
Needs your suggestions to overcome this situation.

rohit131
9 years ago 0 101 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
difficult to focus on anxious thought

There is a reason to anxiety.But the reasons are so small in my view and should not be considered.For example-while riding bike any call on mobile comes.I get anxious due to this.Boss in office discuss on any issue related to work-causes me anxiety.Any office work not completed in time causes me anxiety.Any hard question related to work in office-causes me anxiety.Fear of making mistake in work-causes me anxiety.
So there are numerous reason almost daily routine work caused me anxiety and depression.
So one decision I take leave my job nd sit at home for 4 months.I withdraw everything that causes me anxiety.
Still my anxiety does not get cured.
One of my biggest weakness is that I am not able to follow a strict time table of challanging & documentating my negative thought process.My doctor adviced me strict morning exercises & yoga which I am not able to follow.
Davit plz suggest for any of your good thought.

rohit131
 
9 years ago 0 101 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
finally I achieved.......

Finally I am able to cross one level of my anxiety.I am waiting for this day from last two
yrs since I left my job.I got gud opportunity in one of my previous company.I worked
here during 2007-09.I have gud tuning with all seniors and other staff.
I left my job in 2012 due to severe anxiety nd depression.In two yrs of time I worked in small
organisation with very less salary.But I regained my confidence.I learnt a lot things during
this time & come up to know my level also.I now feel happy nd good.But still there is a fear
of return of anxiety.I will manage this by taking up challanges that will suit to me in my job.I
decide not to open myself for bigger roles in industry.I will expose myself to roles that are not
very challanging.Offcourse that will hinderence to my growth in industry but at present I have only
this solution.I do not feel embarrased now due to my low status in past.I do not feel embarassed
due to anxiety.I feel good & confident.
Thanks to all especially Davit for your support & suggestions.

rohit131
9 years ago 0 101 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
hello!

Hello Private,
I also suffer this kind of anxiety.I had been harased
by my boss so much in last job that I have to leave it.
My anxiety levels became very high during that period b/w
2011-2013.In 2013-2014 I took up a job of low profile
because in my previous job challannges are more & harrasment
by boss was very much.
I have again joined a good job where my boss is supportive.My
anxiety levels are quite less & almost normal.
How do cope up with such situations where bosses are strict?
I get very anxious in challanging situations.I just want to
fly out.If I face it I get very anxious & sweat on my body,shiver
hot flushes nd endless symptoms of anxiety.
Pl suggest.
Davit Pl suggest also.

rohit131