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18 years ago 0 2462 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Katy, I was just thinking the same thing! Zany, this man is an addiction for you, just like cigarettes were. You've tried during the past year to "cut down" and it hasn't worked, has it? Perhaps cold turkey is best...it will hurt a little, but then, you're hurting anyway aren't you? There are other people, other friends, and yes, other men, in the world. You are too good a person to be enslaved to this addiction. As Katy said, take control of your life. That will be truly loving yourself. Rusty :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/13/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 614 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 17,204 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2149 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 84 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 27 [B]Seconds:[/B] 59
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18 years ago 0 763 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Zany....your last post has given me a very 'bad' feeling....please get away from that guy and STAY away from him. My daughter was in an abusive marriage for several years.....what you are saying sounds an awfully lot like what she has described.....get yourself away from that person. and yes you need self-esteem help if you find yourself involved with people like him......nothing you describe is love or anything related to it! When someone loves you they strive to make you happy...they place you on a pedestal...they share and feel a commitment to you. this dish and laundry business smacks of someone with a problem.....and the door knobs??.....are you alluding to violence here?? Get yourself rid of that person. Katy
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18 years ago 0 763 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
reading through this again, Zany, I think you should find yourSELF before you get in any relationship. It sounds like you were on the verge of that when this fellow came along making his demands. People who care about us don't make demands. Your first priorities should be to yourself and your child. Friends who care will recognize this and know that it is right. They won't ask you to give UP anything. I find it strange that the exbf thought smoking was a no-no, but drinking was something you should do??? I do want to congratulate you on staying away from him this last weekend. that's a good start....just stick to it! Put your son first....plan things with him. Get some support from friends or family. I still stand by what I said...get yourself RID of this person and get back to making a life. don't compromise it for ANYone. Good will finally come to you....don't settle for anything less!! Katy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/4/2002 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1690 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 67,633 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $9633 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 220 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 8 [B]Seconds:[/B] 21
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18 years ago 0 763 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Zany....do you keep smokes around now that you are quit?? Stop seeing this "ex" stop it! take control of your life. yes, sometimes it hurts.....for a spell.....but it will never quit if you keep letting this person cut it open anew! Get you a book on self esteem. You need to REWARD yourself......your behavior is becoming punishment that you somehow, deep down, think you deserve?? (and this jerk that is doing this is a control freak in my opinion) Stop letting him walk on you. :mad: Take hold my friend. YOU are worth it!! prayers and hugs Katy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/4/2002 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1688 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 67,537 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $9621.6 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 220 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 29 [B]Seconds:[/B] 47
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