I believe social anxiety comes from the life we grew up from, My father is a minister, we were always taught about fire and brimestone, but never told we were loved , never showed,I am not close to either of my parents and could never talk to either one on them. My brother has lived a painfully hard life too. Until the last few years, I thought my life was "normal", I listen to people say, I have caring ,loving parents that have helped me be who I am today, and realize I can't say that. On Fathers' day I cried. I never had my parents ever say they were proud of me for anything, I just was critisized for anything I did wrong. I have learned an important aspect in therapy, sometimes you have to set boundaries to protect yourself in healing process. Unresolved issues are hard to try to resolve when they have build up over 30+ yrs., but not impossible! I have wasted much of my life being angry! especially at my brother, I only see him 2-3 times a year and we only live an hr. away. Sorry for the venting , but having an emotional day, went to therapy yesterday and I always have trouble for a few days after to get focused. jaybe