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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 653

Hi Guy,

Enjoy the great place that you are in right now! And not to be a downer, but remember that life is 'ups and downs', as are our thoughts. Be prepared for the more challenging times/thoughts, and know/remember that the good ones are around the corner like always. So, enjoy and try to think positive and keep positive for as long as you can milk it

Keep us posted. You are doing great!

Tiana, Health Educator

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

How do you know what happy is if you have never felt sad.

How do you know what fulfilment is if you have not felt expectant.

How do you know what freedom is if you have never felt chained.

The list goes on.

Sunny is right. The journey can be just as much fun and just as important as the goal.

Lonely is just an emotion to remind you how good it is going to be and how much it is worth the work.

Here for you,

Davit.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

Guy,

I think Sunny is suggesting you change your username to "GREAT Canadian Guy".

Guy, how are those beliefs, a "kick in the pants", incidently?

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1665

Hi Cdn Guy: Have been reading posts but not posting lately. I just want to say "Amen to that". We should try and remember that the journey to our goal can be just as much fun and interest as the goal itself. That to me is what life is all about. It's interesting to see how people act during this "planning time". They should be joyful as they are working towards something they've always wanted. It's an opportunity for personal growth. Once in awhile you might get a setback - as in your case, some loneliness for the physical presence of the one you love - but congratulate yourself that you are working positively towards the goal, not just sitting around waiting for a buyer and engaging in negative behaviours. You sound like a great guy to me. Keep the faith. It will come.

Your friend, Sunny

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 89

Hugs4U,

I agree. We are never alone in the spiritual sense. Regardless of ones beliefs, I think there is always something, someone, some consciousness there. Even for atheists there could be the field of consciousness that some physicists talk about. That's way over my head though.

Personally I believe in a supreme being and Jesus. That's just my beliefs. Those beliefs are a great comfort to me - sometimes the only comfort. Sometimes they are a kick in the bottom too, when I need it.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 89

Oh Davit! Yes, indeed! Another day closer to my sweetie. It was great talking to her tonight. She was looking at things for our wedding. We don't have a date because we could never plan with the way her job was here, and before that the way my job was. The acreage gives us a nice place to have it too. Remind me of this if I start to panic about whether she loves me or not. ;)

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 89

I haven't come up with any external rewards exactly. I find the success to be the reward. I've always felt that for kids good behaviour is its own reward, so I try to model the same in myself.

The greater reward will come when this house is sold and the load is off of my shoulders. By working on CBT, and keeping in the game, I will reach that reward sooner than if I go into avoidance and panic mode.

Thank you for the kind words too. Those are a GREAT reward for me. I'm the kind of guy who would rather have his boss say I did something well than to get some sort of plaque or something. Those are nice too, though. I don't mind getting told I haven't done something well as long as when I do something well I hear about that too.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1853

CdnGuy,

It is great that you've created a plan that works for you, and a good reminder that it is not about perfection, but to take one step and one day at a time to achieve your goals.

How have you rewarded yourself for achieving past goals?

Vincenza, Health Educator

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Guy.

Good work, another day done and another one closer to her.

Here for you,

Davit

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

Guy,

Following a recent eulogy of a cousin given by his teary eyed grand-daughter of the “footprints in the sand” poem, I don’t think we’re ever alone.

When you do what has to be done, swatting away nuisance emotions and thoughts like mosquitoes, you’re doing what has to be done*.

At the end of the day, I usually review my day, unravelling it, after progressive relaxation.

When I unravel the day, I am noting if i was “...active in all that the present moment demands of us(me) but in everything else remain passive and abandoned and do nothing but peacefully await the promptings of God.... The daily schedule, doing what needs to be done, brings with it its own healing power(Age quod agis*)...”.

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