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Hiya Miki, congratulations on going to the bar! That is awesome!
 
CD,
I agree with Miki, it is not a cheat and baby steps really are the key! You can do it!
 
 
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You can do it Cornish Dee! And no, it's not a cheat.. we all have different limits. Baby step is the key! I was able to do it because I had a goal in mind.. the goal was to see my friend because it was her birthday and I told myself that I can leave as soon as I accomplish that goal. I really did accomplish it so I felt proud. Of course the critical me was still there that I felt unsatisfied about it too, but I just reminded myself of the baby steps.
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Ok you are inspiring me , my MIL will be with us again in two days . She has offered to babysit one night so i can go out with hubby ( been two years since we last went out ! ) . Said its ok , but now i think i will give it ago next week . Good on you as well Miki . Mind you feel abit of a cheat i can see the pub if i stand in my front garden . The wall in my carpark is ther wall too lol , so couldnt really be much closer lol
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Hey T,
I just went to a bar last week too and the way you described it was just like my situation! 
The whole time I was there I was trying to keep myself 'sane' and making sure I won't faint... and that was all that was on my mind that I couldn't conversate with people. But I was really glad that I went.
Thanks for sharing your story with us, I felt relieved to hear it. 


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Hello again t_allain . Well thats brilliant , im so pleased for you . You are certainly testing yourself arnt you ?
15 years ago 0 2101 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Wow I am amazed! Congratulations on your great successes! Wohoo!
 
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15 years ago 0 1693 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
t_allain,
 
You should feel extremely proud of yourself! You are definitely doing the right thing, one step at a time, one night out at the bar at a time! Keep going out with your friends or with those who you feel safe with, and eventually your anxiety will decrease, and like you said, you will probably have a great time!
Keep up the great work, you are doing an amazing job at facing your anxieties. Please keep us posted on your next night out!
 
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15 years ago 0 3 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
My friends always rag on me for not playing shows with them and not going to see them in clubs and bars etc....HOWEVER!
 
I went with a little pub with my dad and brother a little while ago, and it was terrible...at first...then it was OK.  I did notice that my anxiety decreased but never really went away.  I did enjoy myself as much as I could though, it started as panic and all I wanted to do was ru away, but I knew I was safe, even though my mind was telling me otherwise.  Eventually the panic melted into a general/social anxiety which was managable but still uncomfortable.  This is a pretty big step for me, I mean sticking it out is something that doesn't happen very often.  Also the next couple of weeks after that.  I went to ANOTHER little Bar/Pub with my distant relatives boyfriend.  This was EXTREMELY panic provoking becuase I wasn't with someone I felt safe with.  HOWEVER....I HAD FUN....eventually, I guess thats the whole point right? To stick it out as  much as you can, (I didn't start by going to some dance club ) and try as hardas you can to deal with the panic, because what I did learn, as much as I hate to admit it, is that eventually, even if you don't run, panic decreases to a certain degree.  Also if I hadn't had gone to the pub before with my dad and brother, I think I wouldn't have stayed or even of gone in the other situation.  I guess, no I KNOW exposure works now, and small steps are definatly key in getting used to everyday situations, and sometimes you might just have fun!
 
Thanks for listening, I just feel proud, I never would have even thought about going near a bar 3 months ago.

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