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17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 34

Yeah Moochela I know what your going through. Its tough I know, for me it was like how can you make sense of dying, like how can nothingness exist, how does it make sense. Or when I was younger I thought what if when we die, its just pure darkness, like when someone shuts the lights off, but for an eternity. My advice is that you gotta find some way to get kinda comfortable with it. What I did was, because Im always trying to figure things out and make sense of things and death is just something you cant really make sense of, or I should say what happens after death. I just thought hey if I die Im either going to a new existence or there will just be nothing, I wont worry or be in darkness when Im dead so there is no sense in worrying about it while Im alive. Kinda weird to wrap your head around the nothingness thing though, it makes sense though I think lol. Hope this helps, at least some. Take care

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 14

I had this same problem until I was 17 but I am over it now. I just used to go on walks or go talk to somebody about something else. It's just something I sort of got over by realizing how irational it is. It's something that everybody will go through, it's not really a big deal. I thought about the different things that could happen after you die and I picked out the very worst ones and realized it wasn't a big deal or worth worrying about.

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 8760

Wrestler, Death scares everyone. It's a fear of the unknown. It is scary because we cannot control any aspect of it. Please know that you are not alone and continue to challenge these negative thoughts. It will get better but it does take time. Keep persevering! Danielle ___________________ The PC Support Team

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 69

These same thoughts often bother me. In fact, most of my depression the last several years have been fear of dying. I was depressed tonight about this very topic. My wife noticed and laid down with me and we talked about it. It's a struggle because part of me fears dying, part of me wants to believe there's something after this life, and part of me does not want to deal with either and tries just live and be happy. The inevitability is what freaks me out the most. I am 40 now, and I can remember back to when I was 14-15 and a sophmore in high school. I thought about it nearly every day that school year. The only relief I had from it was when I ran track. I did the mile and 2 mile runs nearly every time we had a track meet. These days I counter my anxiety and depression with exercise still, but I cannot run like I used to because my knees hurt. So I have a recumbent-stationary bike. I'd say what bothers me most now about dying is that I am so happy with my marriage. I never thought I could ever be so happy or meet a woman like my wife. And I know someday we will both die and meet whatever happens when that happens. I must also add that I prayed to God last night. This will often bring me out of a depression. The strange thing about how I feel now is I feel mostly normal except for these thoughts. Last year I had these thoughts and was also suffering from severe depersonalization and some problems with reality. Now I mostly just have the fears of death, without the dissociative disorders I mentioned. Does anyone else or has anyone else had similar times where they felt very strong inside, but still had these fears in contrast to feeling depersonalization? Anyway, I have rambled enough. I hope everyone else is not going through the feelings I went through today. David

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2101

You cant challenge the fact that everybody will die at one point or another. but you can challenge your perception of it (it is sad, scary, etc) you can also challenge your beliefs on it's consequences (it is the end, it is nothingness vs. it is going to a better, happier place) and you can also challenge the hold you give it on your life (it is terrible I must then live in fear vs. It is inevitable but I would rather live happily in the meantime). Anyway, that is how I see that you can challenge fear of death. Hope this helps! -Diva

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 54

How can I challenge something that I know is true?!

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 799

Hi Moochela, Thanks for sharing these thoughts here. This may be an issue that you might want to work challenging these thoughts using the online program exercises. Casey _________________________________ The Panic Center Support Team

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 33

I'm not sure what your beliefs are, but for me it's less scary because I believe that there is life after death. I think if we do our best to live good lives and endure to the end (which means not giving up when life gets hard), the next life will be a pleasant one. In general, though, and regardless of your beliefs: it's important to learn to distinguish between things we have control over and things we don't. So I've been told, at least! Some people are able to make mental boxes - they set the box full of stuff they have no control over (like the inevitability of death) off to the side and don't waste energy on it. They direct their effort to things they have the power to change. I have no idea how to do this, but it would be nice, wouldn't it?

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2101

I saw Pan's Labyrinth but my take on it was that death was not sad because the little girl she went to a better place where she could be happy. As for how to deal with the sadness of it i am not sure what to say. I think death is the frontier must of us on this site have trouble dealing with. But hang in there and my heart goes out to you. -Diva

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 54

Was watching a film, Pan's Labyrinth and at the end when the girl dies I was overcome by a terrible sadness and started crying saying to myself that I did not want to die. Then the anxiety steps in as I am going to die and there is nothing I can do about it!!! It just comes over me, this sudden realisation that I will die eventually and feel so, so horribly sad!!! Anyone else has this? Any ideas on how to deal with this?!

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