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12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3

Kingie, I can relate. Since promising myself in June I would moderate and drastically reduce, I have had two major slip ups. On Saturday I got 'black out' and had a one night stand. This is particularly difficult because I'm in a new and healthy relationship and am struggling with self-destruction. This year I have learned the practice of self-compassion and will forgive myself for this and learn from it. Try writing down what you learned, so that you can assure yourself your slip was not in vain. Good luck!

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 49

Thanks everybody...I think it helps just knowing there are other people out there who are going through the same thing...I always felt like I was the only one, it helps to know that's not true and to be able to talk about it.

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 252

Kingie,

you have just joined the other 99.9999% of people who have ever tried to get control of their drinking. This is a journey, a learning process and will probably take a number of attempts to get on the wagon.

The trick here is not to be too hard on yourself, and always come back to what will you do the next time to make an even better go of it. Dont forget you did have a success here and you did stay off for a couple of days.

What is noteworthy here is not that you have had a slip, but, you have come out fighting and now wishing to go on and make another go of it. It is this outlook that will get you through and ultimately help you master the issue.

Rob

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11226

Great work Kingie!

Congratulations. I really mean that. Slips are completely normal. What is important is that you learn from them and it sounds like you learned a very important lesson. Sounds like you have accepted it and are going full stream ahead. This is not easy - so again great, great work.

With that realistic attitude you will go far. Just keep posting and keep focused on the goal.

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6

I feel the same way today about myself. I have an image of myself ....how I hope to be and things I plan to do each weekend. But........I get a bottle of wine sit on the couch and pass out a few hours later. That was my Friday night and it's a waste. I dumped out alcohol. This morning and cursed my hangover. I'm ready to beat this. Sounds like you are too !!

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 272

Don't be too hard on yourself. Quitting drinking is really really hard. I first tried to quit drinking in 2005 and have had longish periods of sobriety punctuated by awful relapses until recently. I'm now just over 19 months sober, but it took me a long time and a lot of work to get here.

I'd strongly urge you to seek out IRL support, be it 12-step, some other recovery program, or counselling. On-line support can be great, but I know I needed IRL support.

Good luck, and just take it one day at a time.

splitimage

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 72

King,

It truly is more difficult than I ever imagined. Quitting smoking is far easier. Seems to me a lot of people slip up. I don't think you're alone there. Keep trying and keep your head up. I find that the daily diary helps me, and I'm only at day 4. Maybe it can help you see your own accomplishments and feelings.

Good luck, don't give up. Today's a new day! :)

Honey

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 49

Really blew it big time yesterday......failed miserably...drank 4 glasses of wine and then was miserable and mad at the world when my family came home and took it out on them.....I guess I can't just cut down, I have to quit entirely. So starting today no more......I know it's going to be tough but I have to do it to save myself, my family, and my friends. The house has been cleared of all alcohol and that's the way it will stay.....NO MORE EXCUSES!!!!!!

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