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Oh boy, you aound like me. I am such a people pleaser and I think that is one of the roots of my anxiety. I want to be accepted and loved. Who doesn't? I just feel like I am not appreciated. Then I start to feel like I am being taken advantage of. Its like people begin to expect you to do everything. In my family it started out small but eventually, I was organizing everything and relatives were getting mad at me for forgetting my camera! Jeez. Maybe I just have a lazy family, Haha. Its hard to say no when you have been doing so much for so long.
Hi Amy i know what you mean i try to please everyone and i think thats half the reason why i have ended up with panic disorder i couldnt tell you the amount of sleep ive lost over worring about making other people happy but i dont know how to change i suppose one way to look at it is if they truly love you for you they wont care if you say no(much easier said then done)and the people who arnt happy about being told no dont care about us anyway.If anyone asks you to do something you really dont want to tell them you have other plans and make something up if you have to but you need to start saying NO.It dosnt make you a bad person it just means people are going to stop taking advantage of you!Goodluck and let me know how you go.
Lou.
Does anyone here have a problem learning to say no to other people? It seems to me I have this issue with not being able to say no and constantly trying to be a people pleaser. Even if I know I'll be strapped for time in getting things done, I still say yes in order to validate something. Perhaps my opinion of myself or thier opinion of me. It leads to my being taken advantage of and being screwed over on a consistent basis. My ex-husband, my sister, my friends are always expecting me to do everything because they're just too busy. My ex-husband wants our son to take swim lessons at the pressure of my ex-mother-in-law yet I'm to drive him there. My sister and friends constantly need me to watch their kids but when I need the favor in return, they're too busy. If I say no, which is rare, they get mad and I stay up all night stressing over it.
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