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20 years ago 0 +0 / -0 387

I have been married for 14 years and I've always wondered when he's going to leave. I absolutely love him to death (sometimes he makes me nuts) and I'm not sure what I would do if he did leave. He swears he will never leave but for some reason, I can't bring myself to really deep down believe it. I watched a movie once about a guy who hired a private eye to spy on his wife he believed was having an affair. The private eye told him that he found his own wife having an affair and they divorced and that if he had it to do over again he would've stopped obsessing over when it was going to end and would have instead enjoyed every day he had with her until she left. I doubt that helps, but it's something I try to remember when I'm feeling like it's a done deal.

20 years ago 0 +0 / -0 23

sounds as if your husband has a difficult time talking about what is going on and how he is feeling, and really opening up...?

20 years ago 0 +0 / -0 658

my husband says he dont care anymore. we will get in a dissagreement and he says "i just dont care anymore""HE IS FED UP WITH EVERYTHING AND DONT KNOW HOW MUCH HE CAN TAKE" i dont know what to do anymore but worry.thanks for caring, gina

20 years ago 0 +0 / -0 23

It's possible your husband is dealing with a lot of concerns and feelings of his own, which may or may not be related to your anxiety, and is simply afraid or reluctant to tell you for fear of exacerbating the stress that he knows you already experience. Just a thought, but might be a conversation starter for you guys to open the floodgates on some things...? Remember, men deal with their problems differently then women, in general, by retreating and withdrawing. Sounds like what your husband is doing.

20 years ago 0 +0 / -0 20

Hi Gina, I was so worried about my husband too, my husband was being very quiet and seemed moody, and I kept trying to expain it to him but he couldn't really understand, and when he tried to talk, nothing came out right (according to him), anyhow, one of my friends spoke with him and told him to be patient and understanding. And he's been pretty good since. I have the same worry in the back of my head too, but the book I'm reading kind of teaches you to try and prove your thought, does it have any evidence? I slowly started to realize that there was no real reason for me to worry and my husband just didn't understand what I was going thru. Not everyone will understand, but you can help them to understand, just try to communicate, ask him what he wants to know or what he thinks without worrying (i know its hard) Things will be alright! Christine

20 years ago 0 +0 / -0 658

i ask all the time and he says no. but actions speak louder than words. he acts like he is miserable with me and like i am bothering him when i kiss or hug him.he is playing golf all weekend.but than yesturday he was so sick .i am sick of stressing aboyt my marriage .last night i took my blood pressure and it was high. today its low so that make me feel a little bit better.the sun is trying to come threw a little.i am still so tired...thanks for replying gina

20 years ago 0 +0 / -0 79

Hi Gina I'm not sure the sunshine believes in coming out in England!! I haven't been panicking so much lately either but I fel really tired and stressed too! I'm not sure at the moment which is worse!! I hate feeling tired all the time. Have you thought abut asking your husband if he is going to leave you?

20 years ago 0 +0 / -0 658

hey everyone, i am not feeling good. i think i am getting sick and pms on top of everything.my husband is really sick.he has a bad cold.it has been raining for 4 or 5 days straight in flordia and i am sick of it. on the weekends i look forward to relaxing by my pool.i havent been panicing so bad just tired and stressed out for no reason.i really still believe my husband is going to be leaving me soon.he acts like he doesnt want to be with me anymore.i just wish i knew that he would stay with me for better or worse.oh well i guess i am rambling now just needed to vent.i hope everyone else is getting some sunshine.gina

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