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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 206

Ali -- You are SO on the right track! Stay close and keep us all in touch, okay? Smoking solves nothing. Your quit is your ticket to freedom and self-authnenticity. Hang on to it with all you've got....

peteg

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11

Thank you Ron, for your reply. the thing made me feel bad was that 16 days. For about 6 years, I continuously smoked, I have tried to stop for more than 10 times, but all those lasted less than 24 hours... Not smoking for 16 days was a great thing for me. As I said in previous post, I can now clearly understand that smoking doesn't solve problems when you're under stress...

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11

First of all, I would like to thank you, Alice and Tiana, for your replies. It's a good idea to use more weapons than a simple patch. Things were fine at the beginning. During that 16 days, there were times I had cravings. But they were simply cravings with no important reasons. Like looking for a cigarette after a meal or when I wake up in the morning. But the last one was a bit different. Something really bad was happening (long story). I was used to smoke when I feel stress, it was a habit hard to break. The weird thing is, after I slipped and smoked the first cigarette, I didn't feel relaxed, actually nothing happened. The smell of cigarette was also weird, I don't know how to tell, a bit like rotten food. It was the same brand I was used to buy. I think my senses became keener as I hadn't smoked for more than two weeks. I've continued to smoke for three days and today, I stopped again.

About one and a half hour ago, something made me feel very nervous again (in fact, it was about the same thing caused me to slip)... The first thing I did was examining my benefits of quitting list. I thought smoking wouldn't change the problems in reality. Then I came here again and saw your posts.

From now on, I'll keep lots of weapons nearby. For me, they may be sugar-free gums and candies, water, low calorie drinks, etc. A music player is also a good idea. Music greatly alters my mood in a positive way.

Thanks again,

~ali

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 377

Paratoner,

First off don't get frustrated with your quit. There is definitely a logic to all this and it starts with NOPE, "Not One Puff Ever". When you quit it takes lots of energy as you can see on those 16 days. At all times you must know that one is way to many to have again and it will set you back all the way to the beginning. Even though I have been almost 900 days quit if I had even one cigarette I would have to start all over and it would be very difficult. The only way to really make this quitting thing work is get out all your coping skills, come here and ask for support when it gets tough. Distract any thoughts of trying one and day by day it will absolutely get easier. All the stresses that come up can be handled without smoking. I know how frustrating it can be for you because I at one time was exactly the same. I started and stopped many times over the years and hated myself for it. But now that I know the way it really works I will only let the nicodemon stay dormant with handcuffs on. I will never give him NOPE.

Keep Coming Back it Works,

Ron

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 653

Hi Paratoner,

Great advice to you from Alice. Hope that helps- preparing for battle is a great and accurate analogy! I'm going to suggest that you go to the program and complete the activity that helps you determine your readiness to quit. Planning your quit for the right time is part of making it successful (though I think that is over-looked frequently). I would like for you to avoid the mental beating-up and blow to your self-esteem if you try to quit but fail because you just aren't ready yet. Think of this as part of your strategy to success! Make sense? Do-able?

Keep us posted.

Tiana, Health Educator

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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 150

Paratoner,

Sorry to hear that you slipped. But, congratulations for throwing the pack away and starting the quit again. Don't be too hard on yourself. Instead, try to learn from your slip. What made you jump from being stressed to having a cigarette in your hand? What can you do next time when stress comes knocking on your door?

I am also using the patch. I have been on it for 42 days and am hoping to make it through final exam period before I decide to go without it. I found, however, that the patch alone was not enough. I was prepared with water, fresh fruit and veggies, running shoes, and an Ipod charged with fresh music. I also read Allen Carr's book which I found life changing. I have the pages that really spoke to me marked off (for quick page turning)

Every day that I wake up, I am armed with all the weapons I need to fight the demon. Even on day 42, I still ensure that my patch is secured, my water bottle is handy, the fruits and veggies are chopped, my running shoes are close by, the Ipod is charged, and my Allen Carr book is packed. I also have this site nearby for really stressful moments. I don't know about you, but I would not want to enter the battle for my life with no weapons and no preparation??

Paratoner, you can do this. You are strong. Write down all the reasons you want to quit and keep them close by. Post on here often. This time it will be easier.

~Alice

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11

I don't know whether this is a relapse or a slip. I've been tobacco-free for 16 days. I was on my 17th day and some stressful events with the accompanying cravings, I've found myself with a cigarette in my hand. I have smoked for three days (after the relapse), then I asked myself what the hell I was doing. I was used to smoke AT LEAST 40 cigarettes per day, but following that relapse I saw that I was smoking about 20 per day (I smoked for three days after relapse). Today, I threw the last pack of cigarettes into dustbin, with about 10 cigarettes in it.

I was tobacco-free for 16 days, now I'm tobacco free for a few hours :( I'm using patch (the largest one) to assist me, but in spite of the nicotine patch, I found myself craving for a cigarette, especially when I'm under stress. I know smoking will not solve the problem, but that craving continues. I can't use zyban or wellbutrin due to drug interactions with another medication I use.

I want to stop smoking. For me, there are many reasons for this. Yes, for me there are countless important reasons to quit, and yes I'm using the patch, but why do I find myself sitting and inhaling that poison? Where do I make the mistake? And after this relapse, I've really lost my motivation. Yes, I'm not smoking for few hours, but I don't want to find myself smoking after two weeks or even tonight.

What do you think? and what do you recommend?

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