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16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 19

Hi anjel,

No need to apologize for venting your frustration. Quitting smoking can be a challenging experience, especially if those around you are not genuinely supportive. You said it best you are responsible for your quit, you own your quit! Prove to yourself that you can do this, and eventually everyone else will see it too.

Samantha, Health Educator

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 38

sorry i shouldn t have ranted in this thread.i kno that now.i should of created a new post for a new subject.sometimes.most of the time i speak or type without thinking first.my apologies
My Mileage:

My Quit Date: 5/23/2010
Smoke-Free Days: 30
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 300
Amount Saved: $88.50
Life Gained:
Days: 2 Hrs: 2 Mins: 36 Seconds: 51

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 38

I live with a family member who smokes and the people that I am friends with smoke. This has led to me being cut off from their lives because of my decision to quit. I feel alone, only when I am on this site I feel supported. I do not criticize those who smoke because it is their choice like not smoking is my choice. Anyone can see the results smoking can lead to, they are either on the cigarette pack, television etcetc. A friend predicted I would be back on cigs in three weeks.....how supportive. I told my father I was feeling a little down he told me start at it again....hmmm. Another friend said 'I don't like quitters' or ' you suck'. I know she is only half kidding but I can actually feel their support for me radiating off of them. . So the person I live with smokes, which doesn't bother me, as long as it is not indoors. When I am out for a drive she smokes in the car which drives me up the wall wanting a cig if my handy lozenges were not around, and after I reward myself for not ruining my quit by slipping. Like it was said 'I have to responsible for my own quit' and 'I own my quit' .
My Mileage:

My Quit Date: 5/23/2010
Smoke-Free Days: 29
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 290
Amount Saved: $85.55
Life Gained:
Days: 2 Hrs: 1 Mins: 50 Seconds: 10

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 382

Hi Rock,

He'll get there one day! I did what you did.......my other half (on my instructions) left his ashtray and cigs in full view......I just ignored them as they were nothing to do with my quit. It made me so much stronger, in a twisted way I suppose,

to be able to just walk away.

I was advised by someone on site to leave my spouse out of my quit, and it worked! My quit was mine alone. I keep preaching at couples for one not to nag the other, as it seems to have the reverse effect. I know it did for me before this quit.

As you say, his desire to smoke is stronger right now than his desire to quit. Sorry to hear about the chemo and radiation....they suck!!!

Love Lolly.

My Mileage:

My Quit Date: 11/25/2004
Smoke-Free Days: 2034
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 71,190
Amount Saved: �10,170.00
Life Gained:
Days: 269 Hrs: 23 Mins: 40 Seconds: 1

Quit Meter

$12,650.00

Amount Saved
Quit Meter

Days: 744 Hours: 5

Minutes: 26 Seconds: 48

Life Gained
Quit Meter

6325

Smoke Free Days
Quit Meter

126,500

Cigarettes Not Smoked

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1843

My other half smokes, but only outside. Our home has been smoke free for 670 days. He doesn't smoke in the cars either. I see ashtrays and cigarettes, but fortunately they don't bother me. I just walk right by them and say N.O.P.E!!! One of these days he'll quit for good, but until then, I don't pressure him. He has probably quit 10 times since I quit. Unfortunately, smoking helps the nausea associated with chemo and radiation. Plus, his desire to smoke is stronger than his desire to quit. One of these days I hope his desire to quit is stronger!
My Mileage:

My Quit Date: 8/20/2008
Smoke-Free Days: 670
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 26,800
Amount Saved: $6,700.00
Life Gained:
Days: 103 Hrs: 3 Mins: 47 Seconds: 46

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2606

Members,

First off, your quit has to be your first priority. Protect it at all costs. Lead by example.

Second, talk to him. Try to find some middle ground together that will keep your children from being exposed to the harmful effects of smoking and you from temptation.

Many members have dealt with this issue and have gone on to have successful quits.

Some of them have had their husbands hide their cigarettes from them and agreed that the smoker of the household should take it outside or limit it to one enclosed room in the house.

If any members here have quit alongside a smoking spouse, please share your tips & experiences!

Samantha, Bilingual Health Educator

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