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fear of making plans


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i had plans with my kids this weekend which we all know we cant break. my mom was comming too and i feel really safe with her, but one of the outings was a train ride, on a real train,, as soon as i stepped into the train car i felt unreal and scared and i wanted to escape but i couldnt embarress my self or my family. i did end up getting through it but i didnt want to just get through it i wanted to enjoy it with my kids. i hate this SH*T
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I know how you feel -- for the longest time I couldn't plan anything and did not feel like going out at all. I missed out on so many great experiences, that now I am 'trying' (so hard) to get out there and try not to think about anxiety or panic attacks. I have been so fearful of making plans or going out that in the process, my husband, family and friends have been hurt. I agree with Lauren, take small steps...go out with close friends and family...
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thanks lauren for the support. It feels good to know im not alone. i will try it. thanks again :)
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Yeah, I know how you feel. We were invited to dinner with friends on Tuesday night and I ended up ancelling. Not good. I know exactly what you mean about the whole committment thing. When I am anxious, making a decision is soooo hard for me. I stress about making the right decision. My problem is I try to nmake the right choice for the wrong reason. I need to think of me, not everyone else. If we go out on a whim, it seems easier then making plans. With plans, you stress and stress til the time comes. I suggest making plans with people you are very comfortable with first like close friends and family. Then, start with unfamiliar people and work associates. Plus going out with work people is stressful. You can't always be yourself, you have to be professional, its just isn't that fun. Maybe keep telling your self when you actually make plans that "I want to go out. I want to get better. I will have some fun." Good luck to you.
20 years ago 0 72 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
hey all. i wish i could just be normal. my husband wants us to go out to dinner with friends from work.im so scared i will panic. i have such a fear of making plans or commitment lately, for fear of an attack. i can continue with business as usual during the day for the most part, but once i know i HAVE to go somewhere the fear sets in. HELP!!!

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