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Thanks Susanne!! ;)
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Dear kitcat, We as adults have to decide what is best for our children, if you feel that telling your daughter serves no greater purpose then that is for you and only you to decide, it's ok. Susanne
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This subject is interesting to me. I have a 22 yr old daughter that has exhibited some similar, but milder forms of anxiety, through-out her life. I've never gone into detail about the depression/anxiety I experienced after the birth of my first son. (27 yrs ago) and have NOT told her about my recent anxiety about driving. Seems to me there is a fine line...(someone else mentioned this in a different thread) between reading/hearing others symptoms and then thinking they may/must, be true for you. In other words, I feel telling my daughter will serve no purpose other than making her more anxious about some of the mild anxiety she experiences from time to time. I might change my mind if her symptoms became worse, but since the tendency is already there for her to worry too much about things, I just can't justify adding to that. Does that make sense? I suspect my MOM had some very clear indications of depression/anxiety, although I perceived much of it was due to her circumstances. Hard to say.......she never talked about it...but I could see it and she's dead now, so I can't ask. My daughter does mention from time to time some of the similiarites she sees between her and I, in odd sorts of ways...but not too odd...it's almost like she says "Ah, NOW I know where I get that from." :confuse:
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I started having panic attacks when my daughter was 2, I didn't tell anyone because I didn't know what they were and I didn't think that anyone would understand. Figured alot of things out by myself, and over the years and the attacks would come and go. Sometimes years between them. Last fall they got really bad and I had to do something about them. Finally told my daughter, she's 23 now! I guess I hid the problem pretty well as she said that she never would have guessed I had such a problem. She has been very supportive of me since I told her, and has said that she didn't know how I could do it for that long without telling anyone. I guess I hid it from her because my parents had alot of problems, drinking, etc, that were thrust upon me at an early age and I always felt that it was wrong of them to dump all their problems on me when I was a child. I always felt like it was my job to take care of them, even as a small child. But maybe I should have told her sooner, I don't know. Since I could always hide the attacks, it didn't stop me from taking her places or anything. I guess if the problem had been more obvious I would have had to tell her something. Looking back I don't know how I managed to keep it a secret or why I did. Good luck to you all!
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Thank you to everyone who replied. I really needed to know I was not alone in this situation. My son is almost 8 now, and I'm sure that when I do discuss this with him, it will be in an age-appropriate way. I notice that he displays many of the behaviors that I suffered from as a child: hugely intense fears of the dark, clouds, lightning, strangers, going back to school after the weekend, repeadedly having the urge to urinate before a stressful situation, etc. I have been taking him to a homeopathic consultant for over 6 months now. It is very expensive. I see no change in his behavior for the better. First, this consultant told me he would respond to the remedies in 3 weeks or less, now he says 2-5 years (!!!!!????) I really want to avoid the psychiatrist route with my son; yet, I'm really sarting to think he needs some sort of medication as he is overly stressed for his age. I have an appointment with the pediatrician to discuss the situation next week. I met with her 2 years ago regarding this and got nowhere tho. THIS IS SO FRUSTRATING!!! Thanks again for all your input.
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I've Had a Panic disorder for almost a year. I never hid it from my girls. 7 and 9 yrs old. I know it was a good thing because they have to understand what thier mommy is going through. They see my progress now that I'm in this program and they know I will be okay. Somtimes I fell guilty because my oldest daughter is always asking me how am. She worries about me. I told that she doesn't have to spend her day worring 'cause I'll be just fine.
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My children DEFINITELY know. There was absolutely no way for me to hide it. I was a single mom for many years and at various times, was housebound. I have also participated in a few documentaries on TV one by myself and one with my kids being interviewed and my family. I think they think I am very courageous. They don't really understand but no kiddin', they are my greatest strength. They see me as having WAY more strength that I see myself having and have a lot of faith in me to pull through. They have helped me WAY more than I can explain. One is now 16 and the other is 13. So...nope, for me there is no hidding it. I have a condition that has NOTHING to do with my mental status etc. That is a myth. What I also discovered from doing the various shows is that a lot of people came out of the woodwork to tell me that they or someone they loved also suffers from anxiety. Tell them AGE-APPROPRIATE things such as mommy doesn't feel well right now...give me a minute. Now, I just tell my kids I feel very anxious and they give me the space I need. They are wonderful! Danielle
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My children have know since they began, my son has lived basically his whole life knowing since he was born one month prior to my first panic attack, they understand Mommy didnt feel well at times, needed to be in the other room with Dad (as I didnt want them to watch the attack in progress, but they knew of it). They are 13 and 18 yrs old now. My son did the same thing getting older, its not that he is ashamed of you, they just feel they are getting older and would be embarassed to see Mommy kissing son goodbye in front of his friends at school, this is very typical of kids, wait till they get to the point where they want you to drop them off 500 yds from school, they dont want to ride the bus anymore, but dont want to be "seen" with parents either. LOL, its typical growing up. Trish
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My son is 17 and is aware of my problem. I figured that trying to hide it would just put added stress on me, plus he might think he did something if I was acting a bit out of it. He doesn't really understand it though. He says that when he's afraid its usually of something he can "see" but with me there's nothing there but what its my head. He's been really great and supportive about it though. Thank God he has a drivers license!
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I have a 9 year old daughter. I am stuck in the same situation. I am afraid that if I tell her, that she will be afraid that it is something that she will catch. Her Doctor says that she also experiences a racing pulse rate (sometimes she can't fall asleep because of it) and is displaying some anxiety symptoms, but she is autistic and doesn't really understand. Should I tell her about me and about her? I don't want her to be more anxious, but by her not knowing may raise her anxiety too. I want to tell her with a counselor there to help explain things better, if I decide that I should. I guess it is a realy tough choice. You know your children best..I think it depends on their age and how much they comprehend. But I think maybe whomever your Therapist is can help you tell your children, most are willing to have a family session if you ask them. At least mine is.

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