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I know how you feel Sammi. My husband is very good for me. He does try really hard to understand but sometimes he gets so frusterated and we argue about it. I feel broken hearted about it but it seems to release the stress. For him it is because when I got here we used to go out constantly and now we never go out at all, with him not working at this time he feels trapped in the house because he still wants to spend his time with me, he just wants to do it outside of the house. Anyhow just wanted to say, your not alone.
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Maybe you should show him this site. Show him that this disorder is very real and very difficult. Show him that it affects millions of people and there are ways that he can help, even if he doesn't understand.
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Thanks for your responses. I'm sure all of you are right. He has said before that he dont know what to do because he cant cure this. I know theres no magic cure, but it sure helps to have the feeling of comfort and security that he gives me when i'm close to him. Just for the record, I was an only child and my parents are both dead. I have no immediate family other than my husband and 2 kids. I really dont want to scare or upset my girls by letting them know how bad these attacks are. I guess since he's the only person I feel I can talk to about this, it really bothers me that he cant fully understand it. I am SO glad I found this site. It is so good to talk with other people trying to cope with this too. Thank goodness I am not alone!
21 years ago 0 215 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I have to add to this that most men have a need to FIX things. It must be totally frustrating for him to see you hurt and NOT be able to fix it. Most men don't understand that most women don't want them to FIX it...just listening and being sensitive helps YOU to FIX it or at least feel better. I guess I'm lucky..my man is a lot like a woman in that regard. Often, he just wants a hug and for me to listen...HE'LL FIX it on his own. Even though he is very macho in other ways, he is more like a woman in this regard. He can look at my face and know instantly if I need a hug! Be patient with him Sammi. Understand that he wants to wave a magic wand and have your hurt be gone....don't we ALL wish we had that magic wand. Hugs to you!
21 years ago 0 47 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Sammi, Trish is right. I had my husband come to a session with me and my Dr. explained the disorder to him. Now when I feel something comming on I can say to him how I'm feeling and he truly understands. People who panic can't take a migic pill and get better, we have to experiment with medication to take the edge off, and we are forever dealing with this. That is hard for some to understand. Our husbands love us so much they just don't want to see us in pain. Educate him. Good Luck! Shannon
21 years ago 0 364 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Sammi, He is understanding to a point, often times the safe person, which is hard to communicate to them, the panic and anxiety rides quicker with them there, rubbing your head, feet, talking to you to distract from the thinking when its over. Often times and my husband went through the same thing, it was his frustation of seeing me suffer, and couldnt comphrend how the doctors couldnt scramble quick enough to end it, and he was just as confused about the disorder as I was, he couldnt fathom how his mere presence and holding me thru tears could help so much, when the trial and errors of medicine were doing so little in the beginning. Please try to explain it to him that way, or better yet, if your doctor is knowledge enough in the disorder, it is best your safe person (hubby) whoever, accompany you to your doctor visits, they will learn more, and take credence in the doctor telling them how crucial it is. Trish
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Let me start by saying that my husband is a wonderful person, i know he loves me, and i feel lucky to have him. But he just does not understand my panic attacks, and tonight i had a very severe one. When they are as intense as this one was I want him to hold me and comfort me. It really seems to help me relax and get over them faster. Instead of helping me he gets upset and tells me i need to find a better doctor, try different medicines, make myself stop worrying about things, etc. He is never mean to me, we have a great relationship, but i just wish that he could understand that this is not my fault,or the doctors, and the medicine does help. Why isn't is obvious to him that his comfort and support is what i need instead of his lecturing?

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