Hi Wendi, I think, for some reason, the anger thing seems to be a keener part of the withdrawals for us ladies. I certainly developed a shorter temper, for a while. What is certain is that this did pass. I found spending time on my own helped me a lot in the early stages of my quit. If you can reward yourself with a relaxing, hot bath, where you could de-stress a little - as well as sweating out the extra tension in the gym. Whatever works for you, be assured that this will pass. This is a perfectly normal part of the quit for some people. Sending you calming thoughts!!! ;) Deli [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 150 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,258 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �450 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 12 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 46 [B]Seconds:[/B] 41

Glad to hear you had a good day Wendi! The walks must be working!!! Deli [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 152 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,288 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �456 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 12 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 33 [B]Seconds:[/B] 23

WendiB75, Congratulations on 12 days! Your two week milestone is fast approaching, start planning your reward! Know that this is common among quitters and that you are not alone in feeling this way. Remember this is temporary and will get better as you begin to learn new coping skills and acquire new outlets for your emotions. This is a learning experience. Don't be too hard on yourself. Below is a post from another moderator on anger and quitting. It may provide you with some clarity on the subject. I hope this helps. Danielle ________________________ The SSC Support Team -----ANGER & QUITTING----- Members, Afraid to turn into a bear when quitting? Maybe you've quit and it's already happened? Explosive, quick to anger over little things? Unexpected outbursts? You are not alone, but rather one of many. What happens? People in recovery do have ups and downs, and sometimes more downs than ups unless they adopt new ways of coping, none of which happen overnight. We keep saying that quitting is a process. Anger may play an unexpected role for you in this process, and better coping skills need to be developed to deal with this also. When many smokers and dippers quit, they go through changes that require some unmasking. Take anger, for instance: As nicotine addicts, we might have swallowed our anger, or lit up/chewed rather than make a scene when something really irked us. It might have been easier and less stressful than engaging in confrontation about some problem. I'm confident that most smokers and dippers who were "put in their place" can remember exhaling the smoke slowly at some time or other to decompress. They puffed or chewed away for dear life rather than say their piece and end up getting fired from a much-needed job, to offer one example, or be in an in-laws bad books forever, to name another. In such anger, a nicotine fix became the crutch, the comforter and the savior of sorts, and quite a coping mechanism! (Or so we thought anyway.) Get my drift? With the giving up (and loss from our lives) of that lifelong 'all-round friend' the cigarette, we literally go through mourning with all its stages, including the stage of sadness and anger. Quitting is a major loss, both physically and psyc

Katcha, Welcome to the SSC! Start preparing for your quit now by working through our online quit program. It will help you come up with a plan to handle those craves so you won't need that last cigarette. You've gone 16 hours smoke free! That's a great accomplishment! Why stop now? Keep close. Danielle _______________________ The SSC Support Team

WendiB, Congratulations on two weeks smoke free! Hell & heck week are over and we are proud of you! We hope you'll take the time to reward yourself for this acheivement! You've been working very hard and certainly deserve it! We are happy to hear you are finding our site helpful. We will be sure to keep an eye out for your cousin. :) Danielle ________________________ The SSC Support Team

Remember to breath, L O N G D E E P breaths. this will pass, [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 4/2/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 271 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 10,860 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1626 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 39 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 54 [B]Seconds:[/B] 6

Hi Wendy! I've read through your & your hubbys posts, and let me tell you ~ you guys are doing wonderfully! Putting one foot in front of the other will get you to where you want to be. Just don't be fooled by those voices. They will do anything, and I mean anything, to get you to light up just one more time. But, hang in there! It really does get a little easier. And yes, the fight is worth it! You will see that when you choose to stop fighting yourself. I mean, instead of torturing yourself with endless thoughts of how this sucks to go through, embrace your new-found freedom instead. Don't focus on the negative parts you are feeling right now ~ Focus on how much you are gaining from quitting!! Believe me, the change in mind power will do you wonders!! Oh, and when I got craves, I popped in Werthers candies, put on my headphones and listened to a relaxation/hypnosis cd, took a nap, brushed my teeth, cleaned my grout, and most of all, I came here and read, read, read!!! Keep up the faith! You can do this! We are all here, rooting you on!! 4my2girls [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 300 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 9,028 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $981 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 24 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 7 [B]Seconds:[/B] 38

Hi Wendi and congratulations on 12 Awesome days of freedom! I yelled at everyone around me too. I was mean to everyone. I remember asking my kids (3 of them) if they would rather I smoke than be so mean. I was looking for an excuse to go back to smoking but they wouldn't give it to me. They looked at me and in unison said "Go ahead and yell away! Just don't smoke" You and your family will look back at this time and make jokes about it. All that matters is that you don't light that next cigarette. You are fighting for your life and this addiction has done awful things to our minds. Don't let it control you any more. Put your attitude in check, hold your head high, and enjoy being a non-smoker! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 546 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 10,933 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1911 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 48 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 12 [B]Seconds:[/B] 25

Every time you think of your poor children having to survive another rant of yours, think of how resilient children (and husbands!) are. How delighted you and they will be when you are actually ALIVE for their marriages, for retirement with your hubby, for seeing your grandchildren, for not subjecting them to your awful untimely death. Yes, we can choose our attitude, but I have to admit that my attitude sucked for alot of the first months. I was going through withdrawal - duh. I just hung on by my fingernails trying to keep PERSPECTVE!! Whew - it does pass. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 4/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 627 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 15,675 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2194.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 88 [B]Hrs:[/B] 9 [B]Mins:[/B] 21 [B]Seconds:[/B] 6