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Thank you for your replies! I am enlisting more help with my agoraphobia and it's helping a lot. Wish you all the best.
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Hi, Jason! First, let me say that you should be really PROUD of yourself going to law school and dealing with agoraphobia and panic attacks at the same time. You have deep strength and you will get through all this. I don't think there's anything wrong with you counting on a friend. You are lucky that you have one that will talk to you at 5:30 a.m.! I do agree with Trish, though, it's best not to overdue it and become too dependant. A phone call versus a visit usually does do the trick in calming us down. But, on those really bad occassions, there is nothing better than in person, human contact. And, it sounds like your friend doesn't mind being there for you. I am a little better than I was before because of the help of other people. If they weren't around to take me out sometimes or listen on the phone or write e-mails, I would feel alone with all this and probably never go anywhere but to work. Their help makes me push myself harder. So, it's okay not to do it alone. (I don't feel overly dependant on them. Quite the opposite. I'm learning to be independant again, through their kindness.) Please don't feel guilty for needing support. It's okay. All human beings need help some time in their lives. Your friend may need support someday and you will be there for them, too. I wish you all the best!!
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If its just a one time thing, or doesnt happen to often, probably not. However, it did for me, I over abused it, because I would wait until I was panicky to call therefore I was desperate and relieved to have someone with me. It is better now for me, if I start those negative thoughts, the little symptoms, skipped heartbeat, or just a tad bit short of breath, to call someone that knew of my disorder, and just say, Im a little on edge, just talk to me, and the anxiety would go away after we talked for awhile. The earlier days led me to having my husband rush home from work, or keeping my children from spending nights with friends, for fear of being alone, and thinking what do I do if the inevitable happens? I was already welling myself up just going through the 10 thousand scenarios we can create in our head. I finally knew it was becoming worse, affecting my kids and it had to stop. I went back on my medication, working on positive thoughts, and identifying how I can nip in the bud those first symptoms to not let it snowball to a full panic attack. I can say now, my husband works 3rd shift, and I have been able to stay alone by myself, letting my kids spend the night with friends. It was hard those first few nights, I kept myself distracted as much as I could, cleaned, kept busy, practiced breathing, worked at something that took my total concentration. So Im slowly getting out of a bit more of total fear of being left alone. It's baby steps, but I will eventually there, with no anticpatory attacks, or uneasiness. Trish
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I'm a 24 law school student still coping with agoraphobia and panic disorder. I woke up this morning with my heart pounding and had fears of going crazy. Anyway, I called the 2 people I always call. Even though it was 5:30 am. I felt really bad, but I needed to talk to someone to sort my thoughts out. One friend offered to drive 2 hours to my apartment and i feel really guilty (dependent, weak) I understand that I need to deal with these guilty feelings. But my question is: is it better for my long-term recovery to tell her not to come here and comfort me? Will I develop a dependency for rescuing?

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