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HELP!! Hubby just slipped... How should I react??


17 years ago 0 74 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
OK I didn't get angry I asked him why and we talked and hes recommitted to his quit. He felt terrible, but told him I was proud of him either way. He's doin fine now... bless him. I guess my initial reacyion was shock... I get that this is my quit and that is his quit. We are all back on track now.., Thanks for the advice. Danni x x x [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/31/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 9 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 291 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $45 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 44 [B]Seconds:[/B] 13
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17 years ago 0 74 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hubby had the day off work today and he has been particularly irritable. I just went downstairs to the basement looking for him after I took a nap and he was sitting down there smoking. I said "Your smoking??" and he just looked at me. I want to be supportive but I feel quite angry that he didn't try to talk to me first. I guess I'm disappointed too. What should I do?? I don't want to yell or make him feel horrible but I am quite peeved. He's still downstairs now... Danni [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/31/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 9 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 288 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $45 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 31 [B]Seconds:[/B] 38
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    $327,088.80

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    Days: 5957 Hours: 11

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    545,148

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17 years ago 0 388 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Stressbessy, Sorry I missed your post the other day. Work has been crazy. Be so proud of yourself for two things. One not slapping him and two not joining him. Way to go. I am so glad that his has recommitted to quitting. Tell him that you would rather go to Italy with him then with me :) (ha ha ha My kids and husband would not survive a week without me. I am the only one who knows how to cook :) ) Have a great weekend. You are almost out of heck week. Julie [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/15/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 26 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 528 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $91 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 7 [B]Seconds:[/B] 5
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Imagine how disappointed he feels. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 42 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 427 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $210 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 20 [B]Seconds:[/B] 8
17 years ago 0 457 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Someone else is going throught he exact same thing. I can repeat the advise given to her in that sometimes our quit buddies don't make it, but that does not reflect on you. I would definantly tell him to smoke outside. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 207 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,417 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2691 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 18 [B]Hrs:[/B] 7 [B]Mins:[/B] 8 [B]Seconds:[/B] 4
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Stressybessy, Glad to hear it! Remember a slip can be a learning experience or it can lead to relapse. The choice is ultimately his. Danielle _______________________ The SSC Support Team
17 years ago 0 682 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Danni, I can only answer if it was me..... You probably couldn't beat him up anymore than he already is to himself... I am sure he is not proud. Remember this is his battle. Yours is yours/his is his. I would offer him a shoulder to crab at and remind him that one slip does not a smoker make. If he would like to continue the quit talk about coping mechanisms for the next time he feels that panic. My vote is no hubby bashing [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/25/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 15 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 312 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $61.8 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 29 [B]Seconds:[/B] 51

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