Hi Murrough and Marianne!
Murrough, its very strange for me to be sitting here in Ontario, Canada knowing that you will be reading this in Ireland. I had a penpal in ireland when i was little, and my cousin is in ireland as we speak, but that about covers my connections to your country!
Thanks for your support on the man thing. Its really not my priority right now at all. I just get anxiety when i think about the future, b/c someday i would like to settle down, but i just can't really picture it. You're right though, it'll happen when you least expect it!
Thats fabulous that you're going to a support group. I've tried to find one around where i live, but it only runs twice a year, and i always seem to remember when its in the middle, and i can't join anymore. Please let me know how that goes, and if it helps. It must be strange to be face to face with people who have the same problems you do.
Marianne, everytime i read one of your posts, i can't believe how much you sound like me! My degree will also be in psychology, and as i'm just graduating, everyone is asking me what i'm going to do with it. The truth is, i've always been a little low on ambition, a "career" doesn't really interest me. I'd rather have a "job." I'm also working in information technology right now, and will probably move around a little where i am, but thats about it.
I also kind of feel like i haven't changed much since i was 16, and can't really see it happening. This is a little scary for me, b/c eventually i will have to grow up!
About the party thing, i HATE being told to "suck it up" or "be strong", as if i can control how i feel. It makes me FURIOUS. My sister actually likes to call me pathetic when my anxiety interferes with my ability to do things. I don't take it to heart though, it just makes me mad. This is an example of how i've tried to change my reaction to people. Once, i would have felt guilty, crazy, abnormal, depressed, etc. Now, i get mad. I won't put other people's ignorance on my head, they can take their own blame! Thats why i have to be around people who understand what i'm going through. I get so sick and tired of ignorant people!
As for your man, have you tried telling him exactly what you need from him? Sometimes, when i think so