I've been so stressed about this whole thing. I was so stressed Tuesday night that I thought I was going to die. Every part of me hurt. Wednesday I had a really bad episode where I got all confused and disoriented. I was so embarrassed because it was at work and I couldn't speak and make sense. Can you believe this? So, Ms. had called early to cuss me out and realized I was having a problem. She came over to get me and went to psych with me. She thought I was "high" from the medicine I'm taking & was going to set things straight. He set her straight though... It was worth wasting my appointment just to see him deal with her. Ha!
So I went back to work and then Wednesday night, she came to the office and made the biggest scene. I was so embarrassed. She wanted to get me fired. Turns out that she had taken my phone and she also found some of the exercises that the psychiatrist has had me do. So someone had phoned (turned out to be my therapist) and hung up when she answered. Then she saw a couple emails between me and my friend. I told you already: Don't get onto me about that. OK, my friend is a woman, but we're just friends. We talk about our families and our pets and it's not one of those internet affairs. Ms. just doesn't like it that I have a friend. Then she went off on this bizarre tirade about me having an affair with someone at the office. What?? Sorry folks, I'm not having an affair with anybody.
So she fussed and cussed me all Wednesday night. Then Thursday morning starting at about 4:30 AM, she started mocking my sexual organs and performances and then proceded to mock my entire character and my life, explaining that no one would ever like me or want to be my friend and how crazy I am.
Thursday night she wanted to talk. I stayed calm again and I was very proud of that. I'm sorry though, I had to tell her that I wanted to end our marriage. I don't want to leave the children... I just want her out of my life.
So now she's scared that I mean it because in over 17 years I have never said that I want "us" to be over. She's talked to me all Friday night till I couldn't stay awake. She talked all this morning. She talked until my head felt like it was going to explode. She wants to "fix" our relationship and said that I wasn't interested in "fixing" it. It hurt so bad. I had to get honest with myself and with her: I've been trying to "fix" things ever since the first time she wanted to leave me. Damn. That's been for about 15 years I've tried to "fix" things. I've spent so much of my life trying to make things right. Do you know how many times she's said she was leaving me? Probably about 50. Then every time it seemed like we'd worked things out, I'd find out that nothing was worked out. Nothing is every going to work out.
I don't want to hurt the kids.. they are 15 & 13... but she's getting so bad. I can't spend 5 more years like this. Y'know what? I think she's just angry because I am in control now. She's not ready for this to be over. I am. In 5 years, she wants it to be over. That's OK, probably because by them she'll be guaranteed alimony for the rest of her life. I guess she doesn't think I know that.
I'm scared though. I don't have a place to live yet. I've retained an attorney and in the next week or two, she's going to be served with the papers. I've told her that I want to work together to get a reasonable agreement together... I don't think she's going to be cooperative.
But folks, I don't want to leave her for another woman. No way. That's not what this is about. I need to leave for me. I just have to. If I am going to have any chance of recovering, I have to get away from her. I have one last chance to get myself together... I think I need to take it.