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18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 54

Thanks, you've helped a lot. I have decided to take the postition to just enjoy what I have right now. It has taken me months to get to this point. We have a wonderful son, 26, who has taken over the role of the man in the house. He doesn't live in the same town but he always has been there for both his father and me.The saddest part is his father doesn't give back to him. His dad has treated us both the same. I just can't imagine being in that state of mind. But, I will check back with you soon. You have given me good things to think about. :)

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 142

ya know, i thought alot about this from his point of view. its hard to be honest about what u want and need. especially when u might know even know. when i am in a mood...so to speak its different things at different times. sometimes i want to be held and comforted. sometimes i just want to be left alone. and to be honest with u...i dont think when i am in that type of mood being angry and all i am able to be honest with what i want at the moment. i may say get away from me or leave me alone but really want comfort. its hard to admit but sometimes when im like that i want to make others feel the same way. its not right but sometimes its hard to control. i dont know if any of this makes sense and im sure it doesnt help. all i can tell u is this, its NEVER your fault. it sounds like u are doing all u can do and then some. i feel for u. i really do. honestly there is not much you can do. it is up to him. he has to want to change with therapy and his meds. i am MUCH better now that i know how to handle myself when i get like that plus i comply with my meds everyday. i work hard to be better. i want to. he has to want to. i worry that u too may have a break down in trying so hard to help and be perfect. sometimes u just cant help. u can be as understanding as u want to be but he may just be that way. at least for the moment. i can tell u this, i am sure it is not on purpose and im sure he loves u and needs u more than he is able to say. if he is complying and trying than just give it time. but if he isnt its not ur repsonsibility to take care of him and deal with him like that. i expect nothing less from the people who care for me than to tell me when they have had enough. that is fair. we can only push so far and then we have to be accountable for ourselves. im sorry if im not helping. just stay in check. the best advice i have is to not get mad yourself. that will make it worse. if you can remain strong and stay in check it will help the situation. take care and i wish u the best. we are all here for u.

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 54

Yes, that is how he feels. He feels like someone has done something, but he can't figure it out. I have expressed over and over to him that we love and want to help him. It feels like he doesn't want that, and he acts out with anxiety and anger towards us. I guess time will tell, but one wears out and that really scares me. I have gotten a lot of good advise and things to think about on this site. Thanks so much. If you can think of anything else I could do, please let me know.

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 19

I think the best you can do is to give him the attention he needs, make him feel that he's really loved and cared for. Although I have never been diagonosed, I know that I'm the same way. When I'm depressed and angry at myself I think the whole world is against me and I have no one to turn to.

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 54

Thanks for your post. I just don't know how to help him when he says he is very angry and mostly at himself. I just wish that I knew if he was taking his meds. He has a very high stress job and another part time job that is just as demanding. It takes all of his energy, and I don't think there is much left for dealing with the depression or dealing with family issues. I think that I am slowly loosing the battle. I am not angry with him at all. I dealt with this 6 years ago when he had a major breakdown, but we are back to the same spot again. I think that it has to be very hard and frightening for him. Thanks for any ideas that you could give me. I hope you are doing well.

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 142

to be honest, i am the person with the anger that people have to deal with. can i offer any insight for you?

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 54

Has anyone dealt with a person that has been diagnosed with depression that has expressed a lot of anger?

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