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Fear of discomfort, Fear of pain, Fear of hard work

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 7

I am performing exposure in relation to race, most of the time after the races of 30 minutes, get dizzy, cold hands and a feeling of losing control, is so bad, help!

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 111

I really hope you find solutions to your issues and answers to your questions.

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

You need someone to do things for since you are too easily satisfied and things come to easily to you. Then pride and accomplishment will mean something.

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3

Thanks David,

Some times, I have been able to rationalize, distract, my way out of the anticipatory pain of doing the hardwork, and start doing it any way. My biggest problem is irrational anticipatory pain, whent that hits, I just want to stay in my comfort zone, otherwise I am not able to relax.

But when the emotions (panic, -ve thoughts, anticipatory pain) run high, benifits don't count, accomplishment doesn't count, pride doesn't count.

Regardless, I have very rarely felt accomplishment in my life, and almost never felt pride. By that I mean, the emotion of accomplishment, or pride.

I have always, explictly, sought out recognition of accomplishment from others, and they know this need of mine very well. I do big, wierd, funny, thing to show off, make people take notice. And people know that I am showing off. Because I am very transparent, in my needs, and the reasons behind my behaviour.

But internally, I have almost never experienced pride, and accomplishment. Although, from eyes of others I have achieved a lot in very short time. I am perceived as a Hi-potential-individual. I potray a very narcistic personality, except I am very transparent, about being a narcissist. So, usually I am not hated that bad by others.

All this rant was to make a point, that, accomplishment, pride, just don't drive me. Not most of the time.

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3

Thanks Ashley, I will give it a try, slow and steady. I have very high expectations of myself, and when I can't meet them, I quit, avoid. Severely lack in patience. Instant gratification, has been the way of life.

I will try to do the homework, will take help of friends. Homework is very hard. I was so happy on the day I graduated, that I shall never have to do, homework, will never have to prepare for exams. Because those were the worst days of my life.

You must be wondering how I have survived this long, fortunately, my current work comes naturally to me, well most of the time, and I have lots of autonomy over it. So, things haven't been very hard at work most of the time.

Thanks.

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Yes it has a name, it is agoraphobia, the fear of not having control of any give situation. The situation can be anything you would rather not do and the root that causes it in your case I think is the fear of change. If you change you have to do something you don't know how to and so you won't have control. So you won't change. The big problem comes in when you add things to the list. The cure can be as simple as curiosity. Wanting to find out what actual affect change has and if you can control how you see it. How do you control how you see hard work? By thinking of all the positives. The benefits, the accomplishment, the pride. Those sort of things make it yours to own not something to fear.

Davit

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11214

Hello,

Anxiety can be triggered by many different things. It makes sense that hard work would trigger you as hard work can be uncomfortable and you had mentioned that you have avoided it your whole life. Avoidance tends to make anxiety worse in the long run. The good news is that this can be treated like any other anxiety disorder. This program can help. The program is based on cognitive behaviour therapy CBT. CBT is the gold standard treatment for anxiety disorders. Get started as soon as you can and set small goals for yourself. Perhaps completing one page of reading a day or more if you feel like it. The program does include homework and it is hard work but this will be good exposure for you. Be sure to reward yourself for reaching each goal. Keep us updated on how you are doing!

I look forward to reading more from you.

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3

Hello folks,

I have searched through these forums, and haven't found a single thread on "Fear of Hard Work", or "Fear of Discomfort"

I have lived most of my life, by avoid hard work. I don't know what hard work is, I have never done it. And when I decide to take action, trying to stick to a self-commitment, suddenly I experience panic. My heart starts to pound, breathing becomes shallow, and I feel sick in my stomach.

Is this fear even real? Has anyone ever had a panic attack over fear of hard work, fear of discomfort, fear of pain?

I know that taking a shower is not going to be very painful, but sometimes, I just don't feel like getting out of my bed, stop watching a TV series, or stop listening to an audio book, and instead take a shower. I just panic at the thought of discomfort it will cause me. I know for a fact that 99% of the time when I start taking a shower, physical panic symptoms disappear. Still sometimes, I find it extremely difficult to take this simple action.

This happens every time I try to do anything that is hard, requires lots of work. I panic, and I avoid.

I have lived my whole life avoiding hard things, but since past year, I get physical panic symptoms, when trying to do anything hard. And things randomly become hard. Something that was easy today, becomes hard tomorrow.

Am I the only one who fears discomfort, and hardwork so much that I start to panic when I think about taking action?

I almost never try to get outside my comfort zone, but when I do, I panic.

Am I alone, in experiencing this particular type of fear? does this fear even have a name?

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