How do you overcome repetitive thoughts of a bully who refuses to show any remorse for bullying you? I have forgiven them in my heart. I have apologised to their family if I caused them any anger (I can't see how or why). The bully askedf for my help (addiction issues) and I said I could refer them to a professional. 2 weeks later the bully's parents and the bully denied they had a problem and ever since then for years now they have been very hostile to me, denying things, etc. Denial is their own issue but it has for years come to the point of me being blamed. In fact, when my mum had to take the bully to hospital the mum of the bully was argueing with the toxicologist. They have never once apologised for anything they put me through even though I stopped trying to help a long time ago. I forgave them. Then last year when I thought everything was going swimmingly, and we went to the mum's birthday party, the bully was dancing with me and asking me for medical advice of a different medical issue of hers. She told me her plans for the future, and seemed very kind and we had 1:1 time as well. Then this year, I tried to compliment her and got a response of "my mum told you never to speak to me again!" I forgive them. I figure there is mental health issues and denial here. I apologised if I did anything wrong. But I want to let it go. Also, I have no more contact with this family.
