EvolutionHealth.care

Home
Main Forum
Anxiety
Introduce Yourself!
Management

Advanced Search Form

Management

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 169

Thanks Davit. You're a great help. Hopefully one day I will notice the same.

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Cara

That is how I did it and one day I discovered it was gone and I didn't notice it go. There was a while when I looked for it but the coping skills kept it away. Ad I've been good since.

Davit

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 169

Thank you Davit. That's what had gotten me better. I understood what I have an stopped looking for the magic pill or the one day fix. I know understand that everyone has anxiety, it is the way we manager anxiety is how we get through the struggle. We practice our coping skills. And before our coping skills may have come automatic but now we have to retrain our coping skills and keep practicing it till its almost auptmaric again.

I'm glad I learnt this. All this time I was so caught up in what I have "anxiety" instead of trying to think of getting over it and coping with it like everyone else.

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Cara

Usually what people who have had panic attacks get is not 100% better. See no one is 100% free and never was but when we go for the cure that is what we aim for. It would be nice but is unrealistic all the time. 80% is a good goal to aim for and let your coping and relaxation skills take care of the small amount of anxiety that is left over. Everyone has a small amount of anxiety in their life they just don't notice it and don't pay attention to it. We do because we are always checking. Like a tooth ache. We have to check to see how bad it is. This checking goes away when we realize it isn't that bad and we can handle it. So when you start your new job if there is some anxiety there is supposed to be, even a bit of panic, just use your skills to keep it in check and in a few days it will go away. You "want" this job right. It "is better" than the other one right. Keep working on the positives like you are doing and it will be okay. Good even.

You know we are all going to be there for you, it is what we do good.

Davit

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 169

Thank you Ashley. Although I have some bad days but mostly it's all good now because I don't let the negative and obsessive thoughts ruin my mood.

I liked the job but I was under so much pressure on the job and was working way too hard. As when I get home I will be real tired from the drive and tired from playing with my children. Also, I never really liked the drive and I say in traffic all day.

I'm glad I left that job and felt instant relief once I quit. I just hope my anxiety will totally be 100% gone before I start this new job in 4 weeks.

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11216

Thanks for sharing Cara.

It sounds like you are well on your way. Looking back at your old job and leaving it. What did you learn from that experience? What was the gift in it?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 169

Thank you Davit for the kind reply.

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Hello Cara

Very nice post. When you think about it the goal is to be able to function so why not management. I started that way and in time found I fit the routines good enough to not need to manage very often. And when I do it is with very little conscious thought. I just do it. I live a very normal life still getting a bit anxious over new things but not panicking. This is normal. I don't know of anyone who does not do this.

I did wonder about one thing. Was the long drive more physical exhausting than mental and that makes it mental too then. I found it hard to go to a job I didn't like also. What a relief when I could retire. I work hard still but on my terms.

And I am happy.

Vicarious is the unwanted ability to draw on your memory of the experience of someone else's pain. In essence from memory feel their pain, feel their anxiety. It happens in dedicated health workers and has little to do with compassion, compassion is just the trigger. How you access memory is what causes it. Knowing it is your memory but not your experience is how you deal with it. It looks like GAD because it just shows up. It is a little more complicated than an anxiety also. It is a thought process based on attitudes and emotions that activate memory to produce things that you know cause panic even though they are not yours directly. It says a lot about you. It says you are a caring person and dedicated. A nice person.

One other possibility if you are vicarious is that the long drive gives you time to access the pain you are going to in your memory and have these sometimes blocked or subconscious thoughts trigger panic. If they are blocked or subconscious then they will look like GAD. Might even be considered it.

I know this because I am vicarious and my therapist warned me about it. This is why I limit myself in this area. It can be painful. I need a distraction, like your gatherings, only I don't have family, I have work for a distraction, Unrelated work. Peaceful work. Right now it is gardening. In winter it is woodwork mostly. But some times it is there and strong and I have to roll with it.

Davit

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 169

Hello,

I've had panic attacks for a year now but had my worse case in June 2013. After my attack I was really down and thought that I was really sick, that something was wrong with me physically and mentally. I couldn't go to work because the drive I hated was an hour and plus to and from and I felt like I couldn't cope. I already hated the job and the drive and my anxiety made me hate it more.

I think what really helped me not get too down was the fact that my life is always busy and my family is big and there's always gatherings every weekends which always are good times and makes me feel good. I guess if I didn't have that I would of really turned into an agoraphobic.

I saw a psychiatrist and he said I had health anxiety as I work in health care and all this time I though I had GAD.

I haven't been going to work as much as I want to because its so far to go and I feel like I can't travel all that way anymore. I finally got a closer job and I felt such a relief from my anxiety and such a burden is lifted off my shoulders.

I'm hoping this new job can help me get back to my normal self as I don't have the stress of driving too far anymore. As most of the time I feel good but whenever I think about the long drive I have to commute to work it makes me worried and dreadful.

I think I've made progress in the last month or so, I challenge all my negative thought and picturing me succeed is what helps me. I'm not 100% but I'm close.

I think what really helps is too really understand anxiety and what it is. The whole time I though of it as a serious disease when actually you can control it and if you can't beat it then take it by the hand and accept it bring a part of your life for now. The CBT stuff here helped a lot. I hope it continues to help others.

I'm wishing everyone the best of luck with this, it's not easy but it's progress.

Reading this thread:

today's top discussions:

This Month’s Leaders:

Most Supportive

Most Active

Most Loved

Management