Hello babbi,
I have some information to share about my experience. I after 5 years started a relationship with someone in July of last year. I go through (still today) questions, I get insecure, think it's unfair to ask someone to put up with my depression, etc. However, that is his choice. I discuss my insecurities with him, he reassures me. If you need alone time, assert yourself. Meet your needs and let him make his decisions. If he loves you and you can't give that back right now and he's still around, that's his decision.
There's a list of 10 questions the moderators give us and is in the sessions, I wish I had them memorized, unfortunately, my depression effects my memory. It is asking what's the worst thing that can happen, what if works out how you want it? whats the worst thing if it does turn out? Stuff like that. It is very good to help me make decisions, which is also effected by depression.
I know I have other emotional issues to contend with and sometimes devote my therapy to issues with my insecurities and doubting my relationship. This guy is not like anyone I've ever seen before either. I find it hard to believe I deserve to be treated this way. That I deserve to have a relationship like this. I do, you do, we don't have to have relationships that are not healthy. If this is healthy relationship and he's not abusive, using illicit drugs, etc, and you LIKE him, don't discredit him. Decide what is best for you, but don't make his decisions for him.
LOL, I tell myself the above things, almost everyday. I ask myself those questions and sometimes get overwhelmed with anxiety on how it will effect my depression if/when things go bad.
I agree with what others said, just sharing my experience and what I have to be careful of - not making his decisions, not second guessing whether or not I'm worthy of a relationship like this, can I handle a relationship like this, can I express myself good enough to let him know what my needs are, don't make decisions for him (I know I keep saying that but when we feel like we don't deserve something because of things that we've been through in the past, we often feel undeserving).
Okay, enough said, just my experience, hope it helps in making your decisions.