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9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 348

Zoey,

Just remember that today is another day :))

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 52

I know there are certain medications to help with withdraw.. Does anyone have any feedback on this?

Has anyone here taken it if so has it helped?

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 52

Lynn yesterday was another write off..I drank. Today and tomorrow are my two days for AF ...let's do it together.

I hate this feeling. I will never stop trying until I am free, I may have to distant myself from certain people

For a while.. That maybe challenging. Whatever it takes..

Have a great day all

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 348

Jewel,

It sounds like your physical health is improving with your mental health. As you know, you have been an inspiration to many.

Hope you have a wonderful day!

Lynn

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 59

Lynn,

Unfortunately, most of my weight is in my belly. I've noticed my shirts are looser around my mid section. Guess that's a plus. Still got a lot to loose. Another change I've seen is my acid reflux is all but gone. Also, I used to vomit at least 3 times a week. It was never when I was drinking. It would be random and during the day. That is gone! So I assume my drinking was causing a lot of stomach upset.

Hope everyone has a blessed night. Together, we can work toward our common goal........being AF!!

Support & Hope,

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 348

Zoey,

How did the luncheon with friends go? You lost 3 pounds in less than a week! That is awesome!!! I say use whatever motive you can to get you to your goal :)

You said that I have everything in order, that could be further from the truth. The days that I have gone AF have been awful. As I have said, it is not the actually time of being AF but the day of leading up to that night, How many Cardiovascular surgeons do you know that are overweight? They know what causes heart disease but cannot/do not live their lives to prevent it. I know how to be healthy, lose weight, how to eat , but that does not mean that I am. I am 5'8" and weigh 140. This time last year I weighed 130 and the weight gain is because of alcohol. A year ago I could stop at a certain number, now that number is not enough. I am to the point though that I am not happy with a day or two here or there of being AF, I would like a plan. I know what I am doing is not healthy. I seem to work better when I know what it is that I am going to do and when I am going to do it. It is odd, I do not have to have any inspiration to do almost an hour of cardio and lift weights 4-5 days a week and eat "clean" but to not drink alcohol, I have none. I think of the people that have an addiction to food, those that once they begin to eat they can't stop. I feel so sorry for them. It makes me feel as though my troubles are trivial. I can choose to distance myself from alcohol, someone that is a food addict cannot. The temptation is always there for them. How hard that must be, you have to eat. We do not have to drink.

Zoey, you said in one of your post that for now you would like to go AF for 2 days then allow it for 1. As you know, I have contemplated telling my partner of my troubles and one of the main reasons is to be accountable. I would like to try that plan myself. What do you think of us doing this on the same days? Let me know what you think.

Lynn

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 52

Lynn,

I still walk, jog I go 25 minutes each one..

My husband doesn't get home from work until 730ish. So I always NOW make myself wait until he is home.. That way I don't drink as much and I have ginger ale and club soda in between. It worked for this week. I wish I had the answers. Today I'm having a really bad day. I'm just really sad.. Really hard on myself.. Husband is working.. I have no family here and I guess that don't help.

Sorry don't mean to babble folks. I'm having a luncheon with friends I hope I have the willpower not to have that cocktail because that will mean I will have a wine evening and I don't want that today..

Lynn you have everything in order if it was only easy hey? You always have good answers and I know your struggle is like mine .. I am just thankful for this site it lets me be honest. I don't have to hide anything ...

But oh what a secret life I live. You said you can go days without drinking. I have been doing one on one off..next week my goal is two off one on. I have to do it this way. I don't think I can't quit cold turkey. I find it very hard on the days I don't drink. Which I knew it would be. It will get easier. Holidays coming up.. Lots and lots of drinking. 3 weeks I am dreading it everyone we hang out with drinks ( not like me ) at least I don't think. Those are the roadblocks I need to break through , when I can I think I will have it under control.. Until then one day at a time..

Oh I did lose 3 lbs.

Enjoy the rest of your day folks..

Zoey.

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 348

Zoey,

2 bottles is certainly better than 8-10! I know that is not your goal, but it is a step in the right direction. You and I seemed to have the same starting time. When what you told me before where you are is an hour behind where I am. My start time is usually 5, so we were starting at the same time. Congrats on breaking that barrier. The worse time for me is the 4-6 range. Once I get past that I seem to be OK. Any suggestions that helped you break that barrier?

You mentioned that you jog/walk daily. If you tell me how long, what sipped, etc. I can probably give you a slight modification that will amp up the fat burn :)

Jewel,

Just curious. You said you lost 13 lbs being AF, have you noticed a change in your belly?

Everyone have a great Saturday!

Lynn

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 52

Thanks Lynn,

It all makes sense. OMG when I think of how much wine I consumed over the years..

Each week I usually drink 8 to 10 bottles I'm so ashamed even writing this here. Alcohol was not part of my

Childhood. My mother never drank, my father rarely.. How did I ever get so lost??? Will I ever completely find my way back?

Since last Sunday I only drank two bottles.....Moderation is not my goal. Alcohol free is.... I try and I try so hard to convince

Myself not to drink. Although I didn't drink as much I still drank ..I didn't drink everyday and I broke the pattern of 4pm ..

I read the post over and over trying to find something that will trigger my alcoholic brain not to drink.... I really

Want to stop. I know we all do...

Dave I cling to every word from you..you are such an inspiration I know I say that a lot.. I only hope I can

Get to the point where you are...

Jewels you have done so well..congrats again and keep up the good work..

Lynn I would certainly buy your book.

Today is a new day...maybe today is my day... Have a great day all.

Zoey.

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 59

Dave, I'm taking it a day at a time. When I have a trigger or craving, I work through it. It is getting a lot easier. I think what is helping me is my commitment to loosing weight and getting healthy. Plus, I like waking in the morning without a hangover. Does any of this make sense?

Lynn, thank you for your post on "wine belly". I never knew that. Very informative!!! And guess where all my extra weight is??

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