lady i tryed to post in your thread but it came out where i posted yesterday so you wouldnt have seen it!
i just wanted to say ,yes you have to let him get on with it but i know that i needed hubby to ask me now and again how i was doing,copeing ect .i didnt want him to ignor what i was doing i just didnt want to be pushed in any way.but i needed to know that he was aware,does that make sence?! i needed to be able [still do] to say i was struggling a bit or that its a good day.and for him to be able to put an arm around me and tell me i was doing fantastic,whatever!
does this make sence?i dont think you would or should compleatly aviod the topic!
love ya jan xxxxx