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rohit131
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5 years ago 0 rohit131 101 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Cara,
I accept my anxiety in a manner to remain away from the things that causes anxiety.This is only a temporary measure.In fact this is flight because I feel difficult to fight.Yet staying with CBT program & other positive activities will certain help to overcome the weakness & anxiety.
rohit131

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5 years ago 0 hugs4U 4027 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
How long would it take a guy with bilateral carpal tunnel syndrome? Dad actually did some. She actually needs less stuff, but I've asked my brother to look into a nightdress. And to my credit, I walked into a lingerie place to research, and felt overwhelmed. This reminded me of the scene from "Meet the Parents", where lead actor Adam Sandler substitutes a cat from the animal pound, and spray paints his tail, to appease the suspicious father-in-law to be(Robert De Nero), until his scheme is uncovered when the cat can't do tricks, and vandalizes the home. Like that famous American statesman, "I could not tell a lie". Aren't those trash guys supposed to check the trash, since it was in the wrong bin too! I had a stomach ache today, and didn't have the energy to feel guilty, but maybe tomorrow I'll have that extra energy to return to "normal". And I just wish I could eat something savoury, but cooking for mom requires such "vigilance". There has to be a way to make food tasty, but not salty, unhealthy, etc.
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5 years ago 0 Davit 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Hugs

Are you going to knit her another one.

Davit
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5 years ago 0 hugs4U 4027 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Today I accidently threw away mom's sweater in the trash. I have to forgive myself, since I'm too hard on myself. Acepting myself is important.
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5 years ago 0 anerol 517 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
It's still a hard thing for me to accept but the most helpful thing I did was forgiving myself. I forgave myself for being anxious in times I don't want to or when I "shouldn't". I felt forgiving myself acknowledges the fact that I'm anxious and also let's me say it's ok and do what's best and go forward. I forgave myself for being human and feelings things and not understanding what they are. Also realizing that things don't make sense and that they don't have to make sense helped me too. Also reflecting why it's "beneficial" to be anxious at that time... Like what is my body telling me? And learning to differentiate my true feelings vs judgmental thoughts about myself has helped me. Hope these tips may help you too. 
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5 years ago 0 Davit 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Cara

No learning to live with it is trying to ignore it.

With CBT because it will always be in your memory you want to neutralize it. And you do this by recognizing it exists and covering it up with reasons why it is not true or of consequence. This is what they mean by challenging core beliefs.
So when you have a trigger you say to yourself something like okay you are here again but you are not true and I know this because……….. etc. Repetition will cause you to think this positive thought with the trigger and it will become automatic with time. it will also affect associated triggers. The more positive thoughts you can use to counter a negative the harder it becomes to access a negative with the trigger till it stops happening. It also conditions the mind to think more positive and lessen the tendency to trigger.

Do you want any thing clarified. I can maybe explain it better.

Davit
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5 years ago 0 Cara423 169 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Thanks Davit, do you have any tips on how I can accept it?

Is it like learning to live with it, is that the key? Will it ever be automatic again? 
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5 years ago 0 Davit 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Cara

That is basically it. All the thoughts you don't want are in memory and under the right conditions accessible. How you live with them is by accepting them and building alternative memories so the mind has a choice. And then by repetition making the positive memory more accessible. But first you have to accept the unwanted thought so you can build the wanted thoughts otherwise the trigger is going to have only the unwanted thought for choice. Fighting it only reinforces it making it the only choice. Does this make sense. I know it seems the opposite of logic but isn't and it does work.

Davit.
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5 years ago 0 Cara423 169 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
I had a relapse today and I finally understood what anxiety is:

It took me this long to figure this out after 1.5 years.

Anxiety is the intrusive thoughts that you keep in your head, if you keep these intrusive thoughts and get scared of them, it causes me to panic.  my health is what causes my anxiety.  Any new symptoms I have or if I'm worried about something about my health, I get panic attacks.

I have to learn to accept that anxiety is within me and I should not be scared of it.  But how do you accept it? 

How can you live with it side by side, I think that is why it still lingers. I am scared of the feeling of it when I get panicky, and I get scared of getting it again.  



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