okay, I need help big time. My older brother has come back from the south and although we get along fairly well, there is one area that bothers me. It's this: he communicates something to me, so I take action based on that communication. Then he says, he didn't say that, that I got it all wrong. I try and refresh his memory re: the phone call and try and use the exact words he used. Nope, he never said that. I asked him "are you saying I'm lieing?" he just says I've done this before, say that he says things that he did not say. I look at him and think, mmmm' is he getting old and forgetful, because I know what I heard. I don't exactly back down, but to keep the peace I tell him I think I know what I heard, however, if it's this way you would like us to do it, then that's fine with me. Seems to keep peace with him is better than my being right. However, I wish I could record our conversations. As it is I keep on file all correspondence, and computer messages, because this is the exact thing I am concerned about. I don't know how to deal with this, it is frustrating and maddening and I feel I bend over backwards to keep the peace. It was his first day back and visit at my place so didn't want to spoil it. I'm just too close to the situation to see straight on this one. Any suggestions appreciated.