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Hello Mary! I just wanted to say that reading theese posts I found that you seemed to have understood a lot of important things about yourself and your life. I think it's wonderful! Keep up the good work! As for Feeling like a snob, don't. You know who is good to you and who is not. Those who are not good to you do not deserve your time in my opinion. Be good to yourself and trust your instincts :) HAve a nice evening! -Diva
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It was really amazing how EMDR really helped me get to the bottom of my panic and anxiety, which then of course leads to depression. I would love to say I'm cured, I'm definitely not, but I do understand where these thoughts come from and why them stemmed from where they did. My therapist was awesome, she was funny, she was serious, she was empathetic, she was incredible. I feel like a snob when it comes to people I don't want to be with, whereas before, I would spend time with them, but wouldn't enjoy it. I know trust my feelings and go with them. Trust was always a really hard thing for me to handle, myself and others. The "others", I'm getting better at. One day at a time....
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Kitt, EMDR = Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing Hope this helps, Josie, Support Specialist
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Hi Mary, What is EMDR? Is some kind of acronym to do with exposure? I hope we didn't learn about this in the program, because I am drawing a blank!!
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You know, I have found that there are people in this world that truly make you feel wonderful, that you are a very important person (it's too bad it's taken me 43 years to come to that realization) and then there are others who are out for you. I always thought I was being selfish when people would pay me a compliment or pay special attention to me, but I have now found out that being selfish is ok, you need to look after yourself (WOW, what a concept!!). I'm actually embarrassed saying that because it's such a simple thing, but with "baggage" in the way, that simple thing is a huge hill to get over. EMDR has really helped me get to the bottom of my anxiety and panic, lets me sort out where it's stemming from. This friend is someone I don't think I want in my life. She tends to be very opinionated and I don't want that, people like that make me feel intimidated, that I'm no good. I guess, I've allowed her to make me feel that way. I have found, you must surround yourself with positive things in life, again another simple sentence, but very true. Those positive things make you feel worthwhile and important, doesn't matter how little, or how big, feeling worthwhile feels huge. Thanks for listening :)
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Hi Mary, This certainly is a difficult situation. The key thing for you to keep in mind is that you are important. Sounds like you have been putting lots of effort into dealing with your feelings of panic and anxiety and have been making wonderful progress. You may have to make a difficult decision, but it is your health and well-being that you need to consider. Keep us posted and let us know how you are doing, Casey _____________________________ The PC Support Team
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Hiya Mary! 1. I am glad EMDR is helping and that you feel better and like you know what you want and what is important to you. I think that is wonderful :) 2. Ok, what I will say might sound mean and hey, you don't have to listen to me :) , this is just my opinion and my way of doing things. But I beleive if you feel having this friend in your life is not your best interest well then don't have her in your life at all! You don't have to be firends with her at all! I have done that in my life. I cleaned up my "friend list". I decided to keep in my life only those who make me feel good. I don't mind people with whom I have the occasionnal fight etc. Relationships can be hard. But people who consistently make me feel bad or people who I feel deepdown in my gut are no good for me are out! And since I have done that I feel so much better! But as I said now, that is just me. I think you should do whatever you feel is right for you. I beleive that in your gut you already have the answer. Just let yourself hear it, trust it and put it in action :) Anyway, hope this helps! -Diva
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I seem to have my anxiety and panic somewhat under control through EMDR treatment and I'm getting to know what I want for myself and what's important to me and how to get it, or I think I do. But what I was wondering is I've had a friend for atleast 20 years, it's been off and on again, but going through these treatments and finally knowing what I want and what I think is good for me doesn't include this friend. When I'm around her, I've always felt intimidated but I always took it, but now, I don't have interest in being with her. She's very much like my husband, likes to be center of attention, very loud, and I think very insecure. (I have issues with him also). She keeps calling, I don't have the heart to say anything, so I've just not called her back. I know that's not nice, she herself has a lot of issues, maybe it's just I can't handle more issues than I'm dealing with. Does this make any sense to anyone? Sorry, I'm rambling...

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