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12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 12049

grey,

This is a great achievement! Look forward to your one week sober reward, start planning!

Josie, Health Educator

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4

So happy I'm not hungover today~fourth morning in a row!!!!!

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 12049

grey,

A big part is forgiving yourself and working toward progression. This friend will be around awhile and you will both have to get along. Perhaps communicating on common ground and less attacking of each other may be a way to assist you in your progress.

For now you must work on you and your progress. You can push forward and reach a small goal each day. Be firm in your resolve and ask for help.

We are here for you!

Josie, Health Educator

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4

Thank you everyone for your words, they really mean alot right now.

I'm struggling...heading into friday evening.

My bf and I are going to his best friend's house for dinner. His best friend confronted me in the past about my drinking habits and it did not go over well. He came into the conversation very angry and confrontational. I listened to his arguments until they started bordering on lying and verbal abuse. (My bf was not present)

I didn't deny anything except the obvious untruths. He stormed off. Things got to the point where my bf was expected to choose between the two of us... i chose to be the bigger person and apologize for some of my behaviour.

He has since offered an apology for being so angry but I feel like he should apologize for the extra cr*p he made up too. I understand how frustrated he must have been but i feel like he made stuff up thinking i wouldn't remember details.

I'm left wondering if I even care what he thinks... Is it worth my time??? There is definitely residual anger on my part. I want to make him feel as small as he made me feel!! I know this isn't right....mer... any words of advice on how to deal with these feelings??

Again, thanks for weighing in on my thread everyone.... I'm sending strength out to anyone who is struggling to get through the evening without a drink!!! I believe in you!!!!!!!

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 17

Hey All,

I think that's a really good point that you bring up Me2.0, about forgiving yourself. Like you've said, the only thing to do once you fall is get back up. I think that with addition slip ups are bound to happen, so as long as you still have your goal in mind, it's beneficial to get back on track and work positively with yourself and your support group as opposed to dwelling and digging into negative habits. Beating yourself up about getting off track can only hinder your ability to move forward. If you know where you want to go and you can plan ways to get there, you'll be able to get over the mishaps and move on towards your goal.

Stay focused & keep positive

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 20

Hey Greyeyes and Snaphu,

I keep a positive attitude when I can. This time around it is one week sober today. I have to NOT drink at all but if I slip, I get some support then “I pick myself up, dust myself off and start all over again.” That is, I remember what I was trying to do, forgive myself for slipping, take a deep breath and get back on that horse.

It is really a combination of tough love for myself with a pinch of courage. I realize that when I am sober I feel better, my friends and family feel better and I am not missing out on important things and events. I become motivated to challenge my drinking again – practice makes perfect after all.

Anyway, that’s my two cents.

Best,

Me2.0

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11216

Welcome Greyeyes,

It sounds like you have set an important goal for yourself. Good for you. Here at the AHC we support members who want to completely abstain or are trying to moderate. We will be here to help. Use the program as it is full of important information.

In the support group we often ask questions to get you thinking and motivated. Do your best to reflect and answer the. If you were able to have a drink once in awhile how you your life be different? What would you be doing instead? How would you be different?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

Unfortunately once we cross a certain stage moderation becomes impossible. After a period of non-drinking, we think we can start moderating but we tend to get back to the old way of drinking pretty quickly. In the beginning we may think we are in control but as days progress, the old habit of lying creeps in. We start jacking up the quantity a bit here and bit there and suddenly before we realize we are worse than before.

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4

Hi Snaphu,

Thank you for sharing. I worry about how the drinking will affect my bf and I's health all the time. We both smoke as well and have been wanting to quit that too but it's not happening. We've talked and talked about cutting back on the drinking but that almost seems to cause us to drink more. I know I'm lucky that he agrees that we both need to cut way back but neither one of us is able to sustain our resolve. We both end up feeling guitly when one of us is trying to stick to the plan but the other comes home with wine. It doesn't help that an offsales opened a block away from our house. Do you get support from your husband? Does he realize that he needs to cut back too? I hope you health improves soon and that you are successful with quitting, I believe you can do it :)

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 82

hi greyeyes... my story is the same as yours... my husband and I are drinking buddies. we have been together for 10 years, and all of that time has been devoted to drinking, only in the evenings, but still... we would drink a lot from pre-dinner through to 9:30pm, sometimes later.

In the last couple of weeks we have cut down a lot, I have been quite sick... I had the stomach flu, but I know that I have intestinal damage from years of drinking. My husband has health issues (high blood pressure,etc.) from drinking and smoking for years.

It is time for us to quit, and then hopefully moderate. We have to, we have no choice now.... we are getting close to our 60's and enough is enough

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